I'm not really sure where to start with this but I'm becoming concerned about DD who is 5 and in Reception.
She's very outgoing, not at all shy and had plenty of friends at nursery. However things seemed to have changed since starting school.
At first, way back in September she would tell me that she'd played with no one at playtimes etc, but with this being DC2 I figured things would settle down and get easier for her and most kids go through stages of having no one to play with.
Things seemed to settle down and all was fine. Then at the start of this year, she started not getting invited to parties. Fair enough, you can't go to them all, but after the 12th party I decided it best to speak to the teacher and ask if there was a problem. Teacher assured me all was fine, she was kind, helpful and popular.
She also started to come home with lots of bumped head notes - we had one eight days in a row once and we must have had over 30 of them!
During this time I volunteered at the school. I have some spare time and I thought it would give me an oppurtunity to see if anything was going on.
I never really thought she was being bullied and she's never had a problem about going to school. And I'm glad to say after being in school, she isn't being bullied, but some of the behaviour I've noticed is concerning me.
She doesn't often have anyone to play with in the playground and the older girls seem to let her join in when they notice her alone. If she is playing with children in her year she is always in a very submissive role, the dog, the baby, the poorly one etc.
And I discovered why we have so many bumped head notes - on one occasion I watched her walk into the shed on purpose. This is so she can go inside for a ice pack / wet paper towel / plaster and then she stays in there much longer than she needs too.
Even today I have a note that she fell and hurt her arm - she didn't the scrape on arm happened yesterday after school.
I'm not sure what I do about it though. I feel that she's come up with a way to solve the problem of not liking being on the playground, its just not a good solution.
Where do I go from here? Hope that things improve? Another chat with the teacher? Something else?
(Sorry that was much longer than I meant it to be.)
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blibblibs · 07/05/2014 16:15
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