I'm finding this so upsetting. DD turned 5 in feb. She regularly soils herself, both at home and school. It can be every other day, sometimes consecutive days. She says she can't tell it's coming or it comes too fast and won't say when it has happened.
I've looked on here for advice, and on the Eric website but the majority of information relates to it being an issue of constipation and how to deal with that. I have taken her to the doctor and he wasn't convinced she was constipated, I am certain she isn't as she doesn't have any of the symptoms regularly listed. She's dry through the night, and regularly uses the toilet at home for a poo, and sometimes wipes herself independently. I wondered if there was an issue with not liking the loos at school, but having spoken to her about it I don't think that's it. It seems she just either forgets to go, or ignores or enjoys the sensation and leaves it too late.
I've tried talking about it with her, not making a big deal of it, sticker charts, sometimes it just makes me so frustrated and I get cross with her although I know this isn't helpful. What upsets me most is whenever I talk to H about it I feel he just ends up having a go at me. He had a very authoritarian upbringing and believes that there should be consequences when she does it, despite me trying to make him understand we don't really fully get why it's happening, and maybe she's not doing it deliberately. He's difficult to have a sensitive conversation with and although he bangs on about how we need to be consistent, he has pretty much left any strategies eg behaviour charts to me.
Sorry this has turned into a bit of a rant, I'm 7 months pregnant and very tired and hormonal today. If you've managed to get this far, thank you, and if you've got any advice, or just a hand to hold I'd be very grateful. I'm feeling like totally rubbish parent :(
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5 year old DD soiling regularly...really need some advice
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itsababslife · 28/03/2014 21:42
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