DS grip of death

[FushandChups]

Its not perhaps as bad as that but DS has taken to carrying small toys, think HappyLand people or cars or kinder toys, around with him. They are quite small so he does have his hand clasped for most of the day. He will put them down for meals etc but does like to have something in his hand at all other times. It varies as in he doesn't have a favourite, just what has caught his eye in the morning.

I think this is quite normal and remember DD doing it (although not quite so obsessively) but stbxh - and boy, that can't come soon enough - has decided he has attachment issues because of this and is going to end up with gnarled, arthritic claws.

Should i try to discourage this? i do to some degree but not to the extent that H wants me to but i don't see what the issue is.

Please can you help me? H treats me like shit at the moment so not sure if i am clouded by thinking a lot of what H says is rubbish as i obviously don't want my DS to cause himself long term issues. On the other hand, sounds like normal development to me...

[DrewsWife]

Tell him to back off. hands are designed to carry and hold things.

He is worrying you needlessly.

I'm the mother of a child with arthritis. Been 11 years since she was diagnosed and nothing she or I did made it arrive.

Please don't worry. And if he does develop arthritis. There are amaaaazing treatments out there. My teen is now 18 and she was wheelchair bound for a short time but the meds were amazing.

[Sparklysilversequins]

No you should not discourage this and your ex sounds like a tool but obviously you know this.

Dd used to carry a tiny Peppa Pig figure around, the medieval princess one with a pointy hat. Try finding one of them at five in the morning and only THAT Peppa will do. I ended up buying four of them so there was always one to swap in. She knew though but would tolerate the interlopers until Real Peppa could be found.

[FushandChups]

Thank you you sum up my feelings and i will let DS potter on... it makes him happy

I think part of H's issues is that they are 'girly' toys - think Belle from Beauty & the Beast or Hello Kitty. Its not DS's fault he has a big sister. Anyway, that's a whole other thread

[FushandChups]

Miaow - have had a quick Google and that's really interesting. It definitely sounds like DS is just trying this out for a while (started almost as soon as he turned 2) and he has exhibited other schema too.

I studied psychology many moons ago but only lightly touched on child development but am glad my instincts haven't been totally worn down by H and his absolute belief in odd ideas...