I have an adorable little one, nearly three years old. He went through the terrible twos or so I thought, but recently, I went back to work, and he has been staying with his grandparents which he loves. However, recently he has started to be really defiant with me, I try not to get angry, and I'm really trying to to be patient but sometimes it's hard. I'll give you some examples and then please, any advice on how to handle it would be most helpful!
- I say he has to wait for dinner or snack time for food, he grows himself across the floor and screams, he runs to the cupboard to get some food out (the cupboard has a child lock on it) and he nearly breaks the door off. I pick him up (he is screaming and kicking) and then he bites me, hard. He then wriggles out and runs to the fridge and pulls out a yogurt and opens it before I can intercept. I put him on the naughty step (inside I'm crying).
- This isn't a biggy, but I say something is I don't know a candle and he says " no it's not it's a lollipop" that's fine but he just says every statement I make is not right. This is a little bit funny, and it's no big deal but I try and explain things to him (we used to chat together and discuss things) but now everything I say he disagrees with!
- If I start doing work or something in the house, he rips up my paper, or chucks stuff across the room. I put him in time out but he just comes out and does the same thing again.
4, I set up games for him to play and sit and read with him, but he wants me to play all the time with him. This is ok but he has massive tantrums if I don't and stands on the chair (which he has fallen off a few times!), of course I run over and pull him down. It's just tiring.
I've read some books and they say include him in what you do, i.e. let him help with shopping, etc and try all this but he seems frustrated with me.
Last weekend I had driven for 2 1/2 hours and admittedl, it was a long time for a toddler to sit, but he had fallen asleep. When we arrived I was preparing for work the next day, and he threw my stuff in the bin. I played with him for a bit but he kept biting me.
He has cousins that are a bit older than him and they are quite rough with him my husband says I am "overprotective", but they all play tag and they have taught him to find sewer humour funny, I get that boys have lavatorial humour but I completely ignore it but he keeps shouting "poo" and "wee wee" and it gets boring. I just ignore him when he does this.
He still wants cuddles, but when I'm tired sometimes inside I'm going crazy. I shouted at him on Sunday, as he went to the cupboard and took out my bag of breadcrumbs and threw them all over the floor. I knew it was attention seeking, and I did the worst thing but I feel, I know this is selfish, but I'm not enjoying my time with him as much as I did.
I love him dearly but I'm scared inside he is making me feel angry... I don't want to be angry with him. We still have lots of cuddles, but even when I cuddle him he will suddenly pinch me, or hit me. I've been told he his very "very bright" at his nursery, so I don't think it's a learning development problem. I want him, to feel loved but also to be a nice little boy.....
I don't want it to be a battle, and I feel like he is constantly just trying to push every boundary. I was brought up in a very disciplined environment and rebelled so I know being too harsh isn't the right way either. Any advice? please.... he has just recovered from a horrible cold and it seems to have started a few weeks ago when the cold started. But he should be over that now.... Anyone, help... please!!!!