Hi all,
Bit of an odd one this, but was hoping for some advice from some experienced mums as not sure the best way to deal with this.
Am currently 14 weeks preg with dc2, ds1 is 2.5. Unfortunately I've had Hyperemesis this time around and have been so ill that I had to move to my mums as was struggling to take care of my son or myself. I was there for six weeks and have just came home last week as finally controlled with the right meds. Mums is about 25 miles away and dh works long hours so he would only come over at the weekends and when he could during that time.
To start with, ds was fine with it all but as the weeks went by he really started to pine for his dad and when he left he got very distressed.
He's always been a mummy's boy but Since we've been home, he's turned into a major daddy's boy. Cries every morning because daddy has gone to work etc.
Anyway the major problem is that since the weekend he has started to refuse to leave the house. I've tried bribing him with all sorts but he just asks if daddy's coming and when I say daddy's at work he says he's staying here. I forced him the last couple of days to go to the park and it was horrific. He's not one for tantrums but had an enormous one and it resulted in me dragging him out the house kicking and screaming, which wasn't great as he's huge and I'm still weak from the HG. He was ok once he got there but it's the getting out the house.
Just not sure how to handle it. I'm sure it's related to some anxiety about his dad not being there or me taking him away again for weeks, and I've tried explaining we are coming home etc but it's not helped. I've also asked him if he'd go out with daddy and he said he would but don't know if that's true until we try tmrw when dh is not at work.
Part of me thinks I shouldn't pander to this as we can't be prisoners in the house, I need to do jobs and he's driving me crackers cooped up.
The other part of me thinks I shouldn't force him and make it more of an issue. Do I just trust this is a phase and will get better? He's cutting back molars which is making him unsettled so wonder if this is all part of it too? He did go out with me last week, this has just been since the weekend.
Help???!!!!!
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Jakeyblueblue · 14/03/2014 13:28
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