Hi
Just looking for a bit of advice regarding tantrums really please...
My DD is 3.5 years old and, whilst always being 'spirited', had never really had any tantrums.
However, a few weeks ago, she spent almost the whole of a Sunday afternoon having a major tantrum... it lasted from around 12 until 4 in the afternoon.
Since then she has had another 3, and I have no idea how to manage them.
Basically, during the tantrum she screams, throws herself on the floor, hits etc etc - but then she will switch to doing all that but at the same time asking shouting for a cuddle....
What do I do when she screams for a cuddle? Do I give it to her? I've been ignoring the screaming etc, and nicely asking her to calm down, but she doesn't seem to be able to unless I cuddle her... I feel that by cuddling her I am telling her that her behaviour is okay, which it isn't.
This morning she had one from 06:45 until I bundled her into the car, minus her shoes and socks (which was why it all kicked off) at 08:15. She was quiet all the way to nursery (exhausted) and had barely any voice when she spoke due to the shouting.
So I guess the long and short of it is : is it okay to cuddle a child when they are having a tantrum or am I excusing her behaviour by cuddling her.
Sorry for the ramble ......
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Tantrums and cuddles... confused
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MrsOB · 07/03/2014 14:57
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