DS is recently 4 years old, he is a little perfectionist... he won't draw / write etc at nursery often and when he does it is generally a scribble he brings home. When I enthuse over said scribble he proudly tells me its a 'rollercoaster' - so far, so simple,
however I have seen him drawing, he can draw / write really well at times but if the current line doesn't go exactly how its 'meant' to in his head he has a right little hissy fit and either screws up the paper, or turns it into one of these 'rollercoaster's
I always encourage, happy to show him - praise all efforts etc but it doesn't seem to help - all I want is for him to feel brave enough to 'draw' whatever he wants! He wanted to draw a heart the other day, so I showed him an easy way to do this and he tried to do the same... as soon as he hit the first curve and it didn't go quite right (naturally at 4yo IMO) the paper got thrown and he screamed that he 'can't do it!'
Obviously I do calmly show him that he had a really good try, that it doesn't matter, everyone makes mistakes, everyone would draw a heart differently (demonstrated by me / DH / DD) - I'm running out of ideas, but I really want to get him confident to just try things before he starts school in september!
Has anyone else been through this? If so, do you have any ideas?!
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How to help a perfectionist that won't try....?
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OohMrDarcy · 24/02/2014 14:09
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