Hi I'm a single mum to an 11 year old son. He's currently upstairs crying his eyes out after yet another massive outburst. This one was brought on by the fact he has home work to do over half term. Cue slamming doors, stomping and general tantrum. In the past I've literally spoon fed him with his homework and ended up doing it for him. Realised that's not the right thing to do so told him to set about it and if he needs help to ask. He basically wants me to do all the research for him then give it to him in (my!) his own words! He doesn't have ant learning difficulties he gets great reports at school no problems at all. At home with me he is becoming so hard to deal with I don't know what to do?
Dad lives about 50 miles away and sees him some weekends but nothing regular as such as he works shifts (so do I but hey I'm a single mum what rights do I have??!!). Son thinks sun shines out of dads backside. He takes him on holidays etc as he doesn't struggle financially like I do! He does pay maintenance.
Son is thinking he is fat (he's 28kg FFS!!) and keeps saying he's dumb and thick. Was in the bathroom just now I could hear a banging noise and said he was kicking the walk to hurt himself. I'm at the end of my tether I know I should maybe get him to the docs but he says he will refuse to go? How do I get him there when he's kicking and screaming? When he was little he refused his flu jabs and kicked the nurse I was so embarrassed.
Please someone any suggestions? He is a bright loving boy when he is good and he is very responsible he lets himself in after school if I'm working and loves the responsibility. Thanks.
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11 year old behaviour
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Ange1972 · 21/02/2014 10:27
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