My son is 2 years and 4 months and I'm really not enjoying my time with him at the moment. I would say he has been demonstrating symptoms of what you'd call 'the terrible twos' since he was about 18 months, but lately, it's getting really bad and is making me feel like I'm a rubbish mother :(
He is good at sharing, so I'm thankful for that. And he generally eats and sleeps well so I know I'm lucky for these things. He is also good as gold on the 3 days a week he goes to nursery when I'm at work (and also relatively good for my husband) so I find it hard not to take his behavior with me personally. The days he is with me he is a nightmare - kicking off at every nappy change; running into the road / refusing to hold my hand in car parks or to cross roads; undoing his car seat (have sorted this now by buying the Cybex Pallas which doesn't have a harness, so he can no longer undo it); and just lately he has started to hit other children / throw toys and even hit me. This is really upsetting to me as he has always been really kind (he always shares his toys and even his food which is the love of his life!)
I know that all this is normal toddler behavior, but I feel like I'm not coping because I'm increasingly losing my temper with him. And then we both get more upset. I know you're supposed to stay calm and ignore / not react but this is really hard when you need to get out of the door on time.
I do 80% of the childcare, because my husband works shifts and so often isn't around in the evenings or at the weekend, so I do all the taking to / picking up from nursery, nearly all the getting up / getting dressed, nearly all mealtimes and most bedtimes. Bedtime is the most tiring, especially if I've been at work all day, I just haven't got the energy to deal with him running around throwing the bed-covers everywhere / refusing to lie down for nappy changes / refusing to brush teeth etc so I end up shouting and then I feel horrible.
I've been saying for ages that I need to get on with potty training, as he's showing signs he's ready, but I really can't face it whilst his behavior is so bad. I have a feeling he'll know how much I want him to use the potty and that he will use this as a weapon against me.
I'm new to MumsNet and I know there are probably a million posts like this, I guess I'm just looking for some moral support and practical advice.
We do the naughty corner, but he isn't remotely bothered (and it's not always appropriate if we're out). I take toys off him if he throws - again he doesn't care and just picks up something else. When he hit a 10 month old baby with a truck at playgroup yesterday, after telling him off at the scene and getting him to say sorry (which he is happy to do) I said no to CBeebies at lunchtime, but I'm not sure he made the connection as it was an hour after the event.
I guess my underlying worry with all this is that we're currently trying for another baby as we want him to have a sibling, but I'm really worried about how I will cope and having to go through all of this again with another child. I don't want him to be a single child, and my husband has his heart set on us having another, but I'm really worried about it all.
Anyway, sorry for massive long post and brain dump. Any responses will be very gratefully received.
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Terrible twos - I know they're normal but I don't feel I'm coping very well
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Nutgirl · 15/02/2014 13:43
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