I'm not worried exactly, but wondering if perhaps I should be a bit?
DS is our only child. He has been to nursery and CM but only part time and term time only because of my work. When not working, I have him at home but make an effort to go to swimming and playgroups.
Last autumn, DS was a year old plus, and we went regularly to the playgroup at the library where they do songs. It's a lovely session, but pretty busy with a mixed age group of preschoolers. DS was a late walker and used to kind of just do his own thing. No way would he sit still and listen to the songs. He HATED the parachute game and I'd have to take him to a quiet corner with some books when they did it or he'd scream the place down. Generally he would just crawl/toddle around looking at the books and occasionally join in the songs with some encouragement.
Took him yesterday for first time since January. I thought now he's 2, he'd be much better. Interact more with other kids and songs. Well, he's just the same. He doesn't want to do what everyone else is doing. He doesn't seem to be like the other kids. They all sit there watching the group leader with her bag of toys and join in songs. DS either wants to run around, or look at books or if he does join in, he doesn't want to do the same as everyone else.
EG The lady singing songs has a bag of toys to illustrate the songs. DS doesn't 'get' that these are part of the fun of the song. He got very upset when the toy ducks were tossed on the parachute. Didn't see the fun in the flapping the parachute, just wanted to play with the toys. It was like we were just teasing him by not letting him play as he wanted to.
I can see other parents, gps looking at me and I do feel judged sometimes, as if I've got a spoilt brat, but I don't let him do as he likes. He does have boundries etc. He is bright, excellent language skills and can count etc, but I don't feel his social skills are great. Am I over reacting? Just feel like he seems really different which I only notice in these sort of settings with lots other kids.
Sorry, I'm no good at writing short posts!
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DS 2 does not 'conform'
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mumteedum · 20/09/2013 11:04
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