I've been worried about him for years and approached this with various schools and the doctors and never seem to get anywhere, my concerns always get brushed off as if i'm a bit crazy, however I feel if he does have a behaviour problem or condition then to just let this carry on would be irresponsible of me. Over the years there have been lots of issues but right now my main ones are;
He doesnt care about anything, e.g not bothered if something breaks or gets lost as 'you can buy another one' (we have a low income and he only has a few pounds in his money box so he knows this isnt the case, if something like the TV got broke then we just wouldnt have one until we had saved up for one)
Continually forgetting to do something, e.g I have reminded him everyday for 59 days to hand in a permission slip at school so he can go on a (fun) trip.
He is never thirsty, he can go the whole day, and frequently does, with only one drink in the evening. This effects his mood, makes him tired and grumpy. He just 'forgets' to drink, I mean we have everything on offer, water, milk, various squashes, juice, coke, lemonade etc so its not that he doesnt like the drinks he just forgets. I cannot understand how he can miss the cues eg at lunchtime when his friends have a drink how does he forget to take his out of his bag?
He never want to leave the house, he just makes any trip unbearable by being so grumpy, i'm talking about stuff like fetching a bag of chips, visiting a castle, going on holiday not clothes shopping or the like which I would understand.
He has no clue about what is going on, ever.
e.g last year we kept telling him where we were going on holiday, the week before he helped pack his bag across several days, the night before we all went to bed super early so we could get up early to leave. then the morning of the holiday he threw a complete fit saying how he didnt know we were going on holiday, and why hadn't anyone told him?
The year before that he awoke one morning and demanded to have his birthday presents, absolutely convinced it was his birthday, there was still another two weeks to go!
Right now he's in year 7 at high school, a very good school, and he's a very bright boy, however we are still bumbling through homework, he's never really sure what the homework is or when it has to be in despite writing notes in his homework planner.
He struggles to know who people are, eg at a family members house the other week, some more family turned up to visit and he asked me who they were, I told him and he denied having ever met any of them. Ok so we only see them maybe 2 or 3 times a year but still he had no recollection whatsoever of them even existing.
He finds it hard to work out family relationships, e.g that his great aunts and uncles are the children of his great grandparents or even that they are brother and sister to each other. I go through this with him often but he can't remember who is related to who and in what way.
Living with him, everyday, every single day, is just getting harder. We are a nice family unit, a mom, a dad, he's the eldest son, we have two younger siblings, we all get on very well and are loving and supportive. No matter what we try and do to support him nothing improves. He has no logic in his thought processes, very strange social skills and seems to be on another planet a lot of the the time.
Once we had the other two kids the differences showed up right away, I mean my 12yo could not use a swing or ride a bike or swim until he was 11, he still struggles to open packets of crisps or a can of pop. My 2 year old already makes his own breakfast (weetabix with milk) and my 4 year old swims and swings etc no problem. The little ones have a great understanding of what is happening at the weekend or where we are going on holiday etc
When i've tried to sort issues out at school they always tell me there is nothing wrong with him, for reading and writing and the like he's top of the class, even his maths is ok except for mental arithmatic which he can't do to save his life and he can't work out money at all.
Please tell me is this just his personality and normal or do I need help?
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i'm worried about my 12 yo Son, is this normal?
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pdb · 18/06/2013 12:41
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