6yr olds behaviour

[Knott90]

At my wits end and just on the verge of having a break down! I can't seem to find any thing that works to punish my child I have tried every thing you could possibly think off. I have no idea why my daughter is being the way she is, for the last year or so her behaviour has been getting worse and worse now it's got to the point where she is lying, stealing, screaming, hitting, kicking, not doing as she is told, weeing and pooing on her bedroom floor then trying to hide it, telling strangers all sorts of lies that could get my self and my husband in to trouble but she knows exactly what she is doing, at school she is 1 of the best behaved children in her class I just don't understand. Has any one else had these problems? How did u deal with it? Any advise welcome please

[Fairygen]

My heart goes out to you, but you really do need to get some professional help ASAP! Your daughter is obviously very traumatised by something, and hiding her toilet habits in the bedroom shows she's not doing it to spite you,
Wishing you all good luck x

[Goingdownthegarden]

Yep. I agree with Fairygen. Talk to your gp.
Show her as much love as ever possible. She obviously needs it.

[BlahBlahBlahhh]

Sorry to hear of your trauma. Children normally do things like this for attention. Do you know why she is crying out for attention ? What has changed in your lives since it all started ? Have you got into pattern of just dealing with the negative behaviour ? Maybe try a bit of reverse psychology ? Ignore the bad behaviour as much as possible and praise the good stuff (however small). Give her lots of quality time and while things are ticking over nicely (maybe over a board game or something) get into a little chat. Say something along the lines of...."Im really enjoying this time together, it's fun isn't it ? I love spending time together" casually say, "it makes mummy a bit sad when you are upset, why don't you tell me what makes you act the way you do sometimes ?". Keep it relaxed and don't push too much. Maybe she'll open up to you. Does she get enough sleep ? It's very basic but school really takes it out of little ones, especially towards the end of term. Good luck...don't me to sound like an amateur psychologist, just learned through experience.

[Tubemole1]

Talk to your GP or HV about assessment. The triggers could be anything. I would push for a psychological assessment. Also look at when you might think the bad behaviour is starting and strategise ways to nip it in the bud. Distraction is good.