Can anyone tell me whether bickering is to be expected between five year olds?
My little one has a friend who she sees as her 'best friend' but when they are together they seem to start off being inseparable but always have at least one disagreement. They are very different in personality and their clashes seem to occur following my little one being bossy or too boisterous or her friend telling tales and getting upset over quite trivial things.
Recently I have watched them play at a few school friends parties and what has added to my concern is witnessing the little girls mum encouraging her daughter to play with other children. I am not sure whether this is due to her also having existing friendships with other little girls from nursery or because she doesn't want her playing with my little one. I would like to think I am objective enough to not belittle my little ones behaviours, but would also hate to think that people are thinking badly of me or my little one if there is something else I could be doing to help the situation.
Example's of their clashes are; 1)whilst holding hands on a bouncy castle the little girl fell pulling on my little one's arm, because this hurt her and little girl would not acknowledge she had hurt my little one, she pushed the little girl resulting in her crying and telling her mum that my little one had hurt her. 2)within a soft play area my little girl lay across a large cylinder. Her friend began to roll her which frightened my little one. My little one told her off saying "don't do that" in a grumpy voice and got off the cylinder. The little girl got on the cylinder and my little one tried to roll her. The little girl jumped straight off and ran to her mum crying and telling off her.
Whenever she puts her hands on anybody she is always told off and reminded of how she would feel if somebody did this to her and if she says something in a way that could be put better, she is asked how she could have said it differently. I think there is a fine line between being on her back all the time in response to her upsetting the little girl and her being told off for things that are not entirely her fault. We have tried to encourage her to play with other children but at the minute this is not working.
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Bickering five year olds. Is this normal?
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Lavenderlane · 06/05/2013 21:15
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