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My son turns into the HULK. Help!

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Hazelsm · 30/04/2013 10:02

My son was a nightmare baby/toddler.. He threw the worst tantrums I thought he actually had serious Behavioural problems..

Somehow, we overcame all that, he's such a good boy now (he's 5) I do think I've learnt to just pick my battles carefully and overall this avoids him turning into the HULK.

On the occasion he decides to turn green however.. (it is very rare but so severe) It's horrendous. He kicks and screams and attacks anything and everyone. I try to retrain him but just get hurt in the process (as he is a big strong boy) he just completely flips and I feel hopeless. I just don't know how to cope with him when he gets like it, I'm so worried as he did this this morning at schooL as he didn't want to go (because my daughters off sick) he almost kicked his teacher. I'm so scared he's going to get himself into some serious trouble in the furure if we can't sort this out.

The sticker charts and time out all work "ok" for general behaviour which isn't really the problem. It's just these outbursts I seem to be completely unable to control. I can't say I really know when they might happen or what triggers them either, it's so random and unexpected!

Any advise would be greatly appreciated. :(

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NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 30/04/2013 11:53

Has he done this at school apart from today? Or is it usually limited to home? You have my sympathies by the way...my DD is 5 and is like a terrifying wall of anger now and then. Some meltdowns are normal at this age....but by 5 you'd hop that they know not to do it in public or at school.

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Kyrptonite · 30/04/2013 11:54

Sounds like my DS (4). The only way I've found to calm him down is to let him rage at a cushion or DP will hold him tightly on his lap until DS has raged and hit so much he's worn out. Which isn't ideal.

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Hazelsm · 30/04/2013 12:37

It's usually at home, but this is the second time he's done it at school. He is quite shy so normally doesn't like attracting attention to himself in public.

I guess I deal with it at home by putting him in his room and then making him stay there till he's calmed down. It's just hard to be able to do anything at all in public other than just struggle with him.