An old friend has an almost-3yo DS. Since aged 18m or so he has been doing all the standard stuff you'd expect from the "terrible twos". The thing is, it's constant negative behaviour when he's with other toddlers and it's getting to the point that I and other parents are becoming wary of seeing him. The only interaction he has with other children is hitting, not allowing other children to have any toys (no matter who's toys they are) and other negative stuff. He goes to nursery and is similar, but seems to know to tone it down there. His mum is an old friend of mine and I care about her lots. I know that toddlers can find life difficult (my almost-2yo has given me some experience!) but this is taken to another level. It is constant.
Friend is frazzled. Her son seems unhappy. Often frustrated, as typical for his age, but will take it out on any passing child by hitting. He will sometimes look around to check no adult is watching when hitting. He will seek out a child to hit, not just "you're too close, go away". More like "where's x? I'm going to push them over". The thing is, with a toddler myself I can't ignore the behaviour, I can see my own child looking to me to see my reaction to things my DS isn't allowed to do. E.g. sharing, taking turns, or how I react to own DS being hit by another child. Ditto friends, we all have similar aged children.
So, if you've any ideas, please pass them on.
We've tried letting her DS get his own way, e.g. if he takes a toy from the others, letting him keep it and giving the other child a different toy. Her DS will just take the second toy from the other toddler too. I do think that this sort of reaction reinforces to all the toddlers that one of them always gets what he wants. It's not helping anyway as he won't settle down and play with the toy he took from another child, he continues taking all toys and maybe breaking them to, then pushing or hitting other children as though he's frustrated generally.
His mum had done time out, telling off etc as well. Again to no obvious effect.
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Please help me support my friend (terrible twos)
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carabossse · 19/04/2013 23:58
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