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Argh! Bad behaviour!

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BitofSparklingPerry Mon 31-Dec-12 10:53:55

Dd1 (5yo) is usually very well behaved. If she is naughty, if is things like blanking me or staying up reading too late, sometimes shouting at grown ups or other kids for breaking rules, the odd stamped foot and 'you have made me sad!', storming off to be quiet and alone, or rolling eyes etc at grown ups.

But she is suddenly being a nightmare. Last night we went for an indian meal with family and friends, and she sat with her fingers in her ears, cried at a new person wih unusual hair, cried and shouted because she didn't like how the cutlery was arranged, at one point I was actually walking home with her before she changed her mind and said she would be good, then she sulked for much of the meal. Then when I actually took her home, she threw her bedclothes and teddies around the room in a huge tantrum.

This morning, I was woken by her in her sisters bed, fighting because she was trying to hug an unwilling three year old. Then she KICKED me because the honey loops at my parents house do not taste enough of honey. I sent her back to bed, and five minutes later she was shouting 'mummy, you should be back here by now so I can say sorry, you should do things properly!' With a long sigh.

I've cancelled our planned cinema trip, and I'm going to give her a bath and take her on a long walk, but after that I'm out of solutions. Any ideas?

BitofSparklingPerry Mon 31-Dec-12 10:54:57

This shouldn't be in aibu... Sorry, my mistake, will report and ask for it to be moved.

HecatePropolos Mon 31-Dec-12 10:57:12

She sounds really overwraught - possibly by the christmas season? Lots of treats and goodies, lots of people, noise, little routine?

I think what she probably needs is to get back into the normal routine, have lots of calm and quiet time. Exercise is a good one, a long walk can help. As can the fresh air. Reduce the amount of stimulation she's getting also.

And discipline her for unacceptable behaviour. In a calm way. Alone time!

Tryharder Mon 31-Dec-12 11:00:12

My DCs are impossible at the moment. I am guessing its a combination of Xmas, too many late nights, too many chocs/sweets and a lack of outdoor activity given the fact that it's pissed down continually with rain since Boxing Day here. I was glad to come back to work today so I can mumsnet in peace do lots of work not related to childcare

neolara Mon 31-Dec-12 11:00:20

I'd take her temperature. When my normally well behaved kids start behaving very unreasonably or out of character, it almost always turns out to be because they aren't well. Or, as Hecate suggests, they are feeling completely overwhelmed by some other event.

BattlingFanjos Mon 31-Dec-12 11:04:17

I am having the same problems with my 5yo ds. He is usually so good, never a problem. Que Christmas and lots of tantrums and melt downs. Hectate's right. Its all the excitement of christmas/no school/treats. My ds thrives on routine and has really struggled this year. I feel really mean for over treating him, I'm killing him with kindness! Things will settle down soon once all the festivities are over. I always think he's 'being really naughty' when in reality its just how he deals with it, its just because normally he really is so good.

BattlingFanjos Mon 31-Dec-12 11:05:19

Not quite sure why my phone changed cue to que whoops!

mookatie Mon 31-Dec-12 11:07:09

Hi everyone, I am new to this. My boys are 8 and 11 and feel it would be really good to have mums to chat too. My DH and I are struggling with bedtime. We live out in the sticks and they are both scared to go to bed incase animals come in!! We have done all we can but this is draining us...we have no time to ourselves. Anyone out there in the same boat as we think it is just us!

HecatePropolos Mon 31-Dec-12 11:18:48

Hi mookatie. You'd probably get more replies if you started a thread. People may miss your post on someone else's thread.

If you click here CLICK HERE

If I've done that right, it should take you to a page to start a thread in behaviour/development.

LisaMumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 31-Dec-12 16:49:53

Hi everyone, just to let you know that we're going to be moving this thread to 'Behaviour' at the OP's request. Happy New Year! Lisa

yousmell Tue 01-Jan-13 21:06:15

Ill? exhausted? bit too spoilt over Xmas?

Next year can you spread some of the smaller gift giving out over the course of the holiday and only give if she has been good?

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