Bedtime with my 2yo and 7yo is just a nightmare at the moment. DP is away (though even when he's here and we share it it's exhausting) and I just don't seem to be able to get them both asleep until after 9pm, at which point I'm so knackered I can't face doing any of the lovely me-time things I had planned and just collapse on the sofa.
2yo DD has a good bedtime routine with bath, pjs, milk, teeth, book and into bed. But she will do anything to string it out for as long as possible (eg insist on doing toothpaste lid and every other detail on her own, and screaming blue murder if I try and hurry things up - which I do, but it then degenerates into a screamathon). In bed, I either lie with her until she goes to sleep, taking up to an hour with numerous delaying tactics (asking for a drink, snack, wee, plaster etc etc - I'm firm and don't give into all this, but that results in more screaming), OR, I leave her in bed and have to deal with repeated getting out of bed, screaming and running around. However repeatedly I put her back in bed (a la supernanny) it has no effect until she wears herself out.
DS meanwhile is scared of being on his own. He will sometimes watch telly or play on the computer while I put DD to bed, but generally has to be nearby so he doesn't get scared, resulting in him distracting DD and keeping her awake longer. If I try to make make him be on his own he screams and cries because he's scared .
Finally when DD is asleep it's DS's bedtime, a bit of homework if he's awake enough, then his milk, book etc. This is quicker but then he too can't go to sleep alone because he's too scared, so it means sitting in his room for half an hour. If I leave him to go to sleep alone he freaks out, runs downstairs, wakes up DD by crashing about etc. and we're back to square 1.
I'm obviously doing something wrong but I can't crack it. Last night I was on the verge of saying OK don't go to bed then, and just letting them stay up and play so I can at least get something done.
What can I do, does anyone have a solution?
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Bedtime hell, can anyone give me some good ideas?
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BegoniaBigtoes · 15/11/2012 09:31
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