I just moved in with my partner who has a three and a half year old from another relationship, who we have every other weekend. We would love to have her more often but the mother will not allow it.
The problem is at home she sleeps in the same room as her mother, and up until now she has slept in the same room as her father at weekends because he only had a studio flat.
For the first time this weekend we tried to get her to sleep in her own room and experienced the expected adjustment problems. Its a big shock for her afterall.
We tried to make the evening as relaxing as possible - bath time, reading, milk etc, but she just wouldn?t go down and had huge screaming kicking hissy fit until her dad sat there and held her hand while she fell asleep. Then she had a screaming tantrum whenever she woke up (every 40 minutes) and realized a parent wasn?t there. She wouldn?t stay in her bedroom, even if we gently and firmly kept leading her back (we tried for nearly an hour until we took pity on the neighbours). I don?t know if the problem was that my partner kept engaging with her and cuddling and trying to reason with her every time he took her back to her room? In the end one or the other of us ended up sitting by her bed on and off all night trying to stop the screaming.
Please do you have any suggestions? Is it even possible to get her into a routine when we only have her every other weekend? Should her dad just set up a camp bed there until she grows out of it?
Thanks a lot!
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3 year old won't sleep alone
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Mookin · 29/10/2012 10:45
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