Dh and I have reached an impasse on this and I'm not sure who is right.
Basically we have two sons and our three year old cm be ver difficult to manage at times. He often ignores us, pushes boundaries, tries to do dangerous things etc. he is a gorgeous bright cheeky boy with buckets of energy.
Anyhow he has tantrums where he will refuse to, for example, be changed or get into his car seat.
My method is to try counting and say he may not get something if he oesnt comply or give him a reward of some sort if he does.
His nursery employ a reward chart technique and say he makes them sad if he does not do something.
Dh disagrees, says I'm not giving enough parental guidance. His method for sample would be to actually pick him up and lie him down to change him or put him into car seat and hold him whilst strapping him in.
Other than in dangerous situations or at my wits end doi resort to physically making him do something as he gets very upset.
We have kind of agreed to try counting before resorting to that but I'm still feeling uneasy. I would like to see a non physical regime except when absolutely necessary.
Am I being too soft? A his nursery they do sometimes pick them up to remove them from situations or hold thm back etc.
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Physical v non-physical discipline dh and I disagree
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Ginga66 · 23/10/2012 01:04
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