Please somebody help save my sanity/relationship etc.
Following an elective c section last year my ds3 was in nicu fr a week with respiratory distress syndrome. During this time I was mostly unable to hold him, he was given a lot of morphine and on a ventilator for a while. He had an emergency transfer by ambulance in the middle of the night and was given artificial surfactant etc etc - you get the picture.
When he came home he was fully recovered but then plunged straight into school runs etc. as a result of all this trauma and partly because ideologically I support attachment parenting (and had followed it to different degrees with the other two) I wore him constantly in a sling, co slept, breast fed on demand.
Fast forward 15 months and we are locked in a cycle where he screams whenever he is separated from me. And I mean whenever. Day and night. It is 2am and admittedly me, him and my husband are in a much too small bed but if he is not attached to my breast suckling then he is screaming. This cannot be normal? He won't let anyone but me, my husband and my mother pick him up and every time I put him down, unless he is totally absorbed in something, he will scream.
He can be enchanting and funny and is hitting all his milestones and obviously I adore him, but he is ruining some of my personal relationships - my parents are becoming increasingly sceptical about ap, my other dc are being neglected as he is so demanding and my husband is becoming very resentful o him (did I say he is currently lying on the floor with no covers)..
Is he one of the high-need babies that the sears talk about? How can I get my life back? What have I created?
I need some sleep and I want him out of my bed. Sometimes I let him cry for a few minutes because I physically can't attend to him every second and he. Just. Will. Not. Stop. It is the most shrill, anxious, alarming sound. At night I sometimes have to let him suckle all night.
Please help me. Is something wrong with him? Sometimes I worry he has a personality disorder and we just can't go on like this.
Thank you if you have listened.
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Ap baby with extreme separation anxiety
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Partridge · 20/10/2012 02:13
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