So DS1 (eldest of 5 children) is 13. For a few weeks I have been wondering where loose change has been going from my bag.... not really thought much of it. Then this morning I heard the lounge door closing at 7am (my bedroom is downstairs next to the lounge) so I stumbled bleary eyed out of bed and went into the lounge. DS1 stood there closing the display cabinet door (all the kids money boxes are in the bottom) I asked him what he was doing and he said 'tidying up'
Anyway an hour later his school shoes were soaking wet so I stood there and dried the hairdryer with them for him. He took them with no 'thank you' or anything. I told him that if he gets home tonight and they are that wet again he needs to dry them, and that if i catch him near that cabinet again there will be trouble (its got lots of sentimental bits in it and a small collection of swarovski crystal) especially if he goes near the money boxes. He pulled a bit of an 'I don't give a shit' face then went to school. So then I looked and realised that the bottom was missing off his sisters money box (she is 11) and there was no money in it at all. I know there was about £10 in there as it was her birthday the other day. His money box was empty too.
None of the kids have 'pocket money', they don't go anywhere to need anything and if we do go out, we give them spending money, and so will grandparents. We aren't struggling, but neither are we 'well off' enough to brush off £10 going missing here and there'
I don't recognise this boy any more.
I cannot abide lying and stealing.
I am so upset and cross.
So what should I do? Give him chance to confess for a lesser punishment? He doesn't go out anywhere so I can't 'ground' him. In terms of 'material' things to confiscate etc, he has a pay as you go phone. I could just not put any credit on it next time? or take the money out of his account to give to his sister? He has a ds (but rarely play on it) and he shares an xbox with his little brother. I don't know. I am pretty sure I will get a mouthful from him either way I don't understand him....
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mums of teens please help....suitable punishment for my 13 year old DS who I have found out is stealing
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AnAngelWithin · 03/10/2012 11:15
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