Sorry this is very long and seems trivial but I'm concerned DS will lose out on a useful skill. DS1 is 5 (6 in March). For his 4th birthday we bought him his first bike with stabilizers. He was quite keen at the time, wanted reflectors and bottle holder fitted like Daddy's bike, etc. Later that year my mum got a second hand bike to keep at her place, and again, he was always very keen, asking for it whenever we went to stay with her.
Over the last winter, obviously due to bad weather, it didn't get used. Then this spring and summer, we seem to have fallen into the habit of not getting him out on his bike, so he hasn't used it so much. The few times we have been out he has struggled to stay balanced. We have had to fit the stabilizers so that they are not completely level with the back wheel, but very slightly higher, as the pavement to the park is very uneven and in several places he could get beached. We soon realized that he was leaning so as to have the bike always resting on the stabilizers, and consequently he wasn't balancing properly and gradually started to fall off.
DH reckons the solution to this problem is for him to learn to ride without the stabilizers. Now unfortunately, my DH, who is in all other respects wonderful can be a bit of an idiot in that he can get impatient and critical if the children aren't doing something that seems obvious and easy to him. So on one occasion he was a bit hard on DS about how he was riding, and I think this has put him off.
Now DS has nearly outgrown this bike and still cannot ride it very well with the stabilizers, let alone try without them. I tried to persuade him to ride it to the park this weekend. He took some persuading, saying he was frightened of falling off into the road and getting run over. He got very anxious as he got on, so we compromised by my saying we would walk the bike to the park and then he could ride it there in the football/basketball court where it was very flat and level, and completely safe. When we got there, the court was free and I tried to get him in, but he saw some friends and went off to do the monkey bars. Then some older boys went in the court with a football and that was our chance gone.
I'm worried that DS will miss out on things with his friends if he doesn't get over this anxiety. Lots of his school friends are now riding bigger bikes without stabilizers. I know it's not a competition but I don't want him getting teased for still having a 'baby' bike, or being left out if his friends want to play on their bikes. And I'd love us to be able to have family bike rides when DS2 is old enough. But I don't feel inclined to buy him a bigger bike until I know it will get ridden, so in a way the window of opportunity for learning is getting smaller, especially as we head into winter again and might not get the weather. BTW he enjoys lots of other physical activities - swimming, kicking a football around, climbing trees, bat and ball games etc. By way of comparison, he had a similar block around swimming lessons - was adamant he didn't want them, but since he wasn't really learning or progressing despite our best efforts whenever we took him swimming, I signed him up for lessons anyway, and of course he loves them and it has done him no end of good, both in confidence and technique.
Any ideas please?
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Help - DS with mental block over bike-riding, how can I help him?
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fluffyanimal · 17/10/2011 15:31
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