Please help as my 3.5yr old is driving me batty and I don't think I'm handling this correctly! It is constant! All low level stuff and all day....
I think I am ok with handling the "biggies" - eg if she were to hit someone/do something else completely unnacceptable - but truth be told she very rarely does. So she probably appears fairly well behaved! But every last little thing is a battle and I feel like I am constantly nagging her, which can't help things.
Examples are things like:
- asking her to do things - can you please take off your shoes/pick up that book/not climb on that high wall/let your friend have a shot etc etc-I watch her friends and nursery classmates respond willingly, 1st time. I ask nicely but firmly once or twice, she won't do it, I speak more firmly, maybe get down to her level etc etc, she won't do it - she will only do it when it comes with a threat or a bribe! And a fairly harsh tone. Now I having nothing against using harsh tone when needed, but...
- she can be very unkind to other children - I've posted about this before, but I'm quite saddeded by her responses sometimes - another child comes skipping up to her in the playpark or whatever, they will be met with "go away" or "this is mine you can't have a shot" etc. I am a friendly chatty person, and like to think the behaviour I model is kind, polite etc - she is soooo grumpy and rude all of the time!
- I watch her at "activities" (sorry I hate that word! ), other children line up, listen, generally comply! She is always zooming off in the other direction, going on things she's not meant to be on, touching things she's not meant to touch etc etc
As I said, all low level, nothing life threatning (although the rudeness really does get to me) but I'd just love it if once she wasn't getting into trouble/giving her teachers etc a hard time. She is a happy, smart, funny and when she feels like it very affectionate little girl - but I feel as she gets older and gets further and further into the school system this side of her will get lost and overshadowed if her behaviour doesn't improve
Sorry this is an essay, congratulations if you've made it this far! Can anyone suggest ways to deal with this? Or tell me stories of their now angelic children who were like this at 3.5?!