I have 2 kids ages 6 and 3. They are actually lovely, bright, funny boys, when they are not together.
Together they bicker, the younger one does want to be like his big brother and cos' he can't be like his big brother and do exactly the same things - well he opts to snatching toys, nipping, hitting, throwing, shouting etc.. He's a powerful kid and does inflict pain on his brother.
Our youngest had a very tough time for the first 2 yrs of his life and I think due to the pain he suffered in the early years he resorts to anger quickly as it is an emotion he's used to. He's not a patient child. We have made progress in getting him to apologise after a situation has occurred without it taking several hours.
I have watched them in action several times and the older one is no angel in this either - he can wind his little brother up until his brother explodes and all hell breaks out.
It is getting more and more, it's been endless this weekend. I stood outside earlier and heard them both in full screaming mode. It was mortifying.
We have tried various obvious tactics. The removal of a child, the removal of both children to different places in the house apart from each other, confiscation of toys, no treats, early bathtimes etc.... I have tried talking to them both about how they interact with each other...
I am trying to keep calm but my patience is running out now. Today I just wanted to burst into tears as yet another afternoon was in shambles with everyone glaring at each other.
And yet they utterly love each other. They want to play together. When the younger one has to go in for a hospital stay then they miss each other madly.
I need new tactics and guidance guys and hope that they will stop this and the sentence "Mummmmmmmmmmmmmmy.........He's hit me with the red alien and my nose is bleeding......" becomes a distant memory...
Someone recommended to me the book How to talk so Kids Listen. Anyone read it and reckon it will revitalise me?
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Ok how do I stop my 2 boys from arguing/brawling cos' I am losing my cool
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Pancakeflipper · 29/08/2011 19:59
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