I'm not sure how to handle this one. My dcs are upset so I'd like to sort it out.
My friends' little girl started at ds1's school last term. His teacher told me he'd been wonderful in terms of helping her, showing her around etc. I was very proud of him for demonstrating such kindness. They are in Year 1.
I also look after this little girl two evenings a week as a favour to my friends who both work full time. I didn't want payment but they felt they should pay me and after much haggling, I agreed on a small sum of money, to shut them up about it really.
The problem is this: on one of these evenings I look after her, she, ds1, dd (aged 4) and two of their friends (all at same school also aged 6 and 4) play tennis. We then go back to friends' house for supper. I'm very good friends with their mother. We alternate cooking and share the workload there.
Now, my ds1 and dd have come to me in tears on several occasions saying that the little girl I look after is being mean to them and is actively trying to exclude them from playing with the other two children. I told them to sort it out themselves and tell her to stop being so silly/mean etc.
Now, since then, I've overheard her on three occasions being positively mean to my two children - trying and succeeding to get their friends not to play with them, exclude them etc. I was so annoyed. I told her off on each occasion, telling her we don't do that to our friends but today it happened again, according to my dcs at bedtime.
I'm starting to actively dislike her because of this especially when my ds1 showed her such kindness at school and my dd adores her but keeps getting kicked in the teeth. They both looked so downcast and sad tonight at bedtime.
The following evening when I look after her again, she's as nice as pie. I've had a word with my friend - mother of the other two children who play tennis and she agreed that she would have a chat with her dcs to try and prevent it.
I think I want to tell her parents I don't want to look after such a child. I don't want my dcs to feel excluded and miserable especially since I started to look after this child as a favour!! Plus I'm sure the little girl will start to sense my dislike.
What do you think I should do?
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MilkMonitor · 29/06/2011 20:45
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