I am desperately trying to get 4.6yo DS to do as he is told, and failing. He can do all the things I need him to do, get dressed / undressed quickly, flannel wash himself in the bath, put toys away, get shoes on etc. But I'm at my wits end trying to get him to do them for me, he tore up the reward charts and we are now on the pasta pots (he has a plastic tumbler and gets a piece of dried pasta in it for doing as he is asked or for doing something lovely and helpful without being asked - positive reinforcement I think? He knows he gets his much wanted new tape measure when it is full up).
It has taken 3 weeks and he still hasn't done enough to fill one little tumbler. I give him loads of chances every day to add to the pot but most of the time he huffs off, yells, tantrums and refuses to do it .
Is he too young or have I got a particularly stubborn small person on my hands. He is very hard work for me, his little sister is a handful but behaves 'normally' and she will do things for rewards.
To be honest I am scared stiff about school starting in september as DS has got to start doing as he's told, he's good at nursery but not for me and I'm worried he will kick off at school when there are less adults around.
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reward charts, pasta pots... ways to get stubborn dc's to behave and do as they are told??
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Meglet · 17/06/2011 16:40
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