My dd is 4 mths and cries unconsolobly when anyone else looks after her. Only in the evening when it is bedtime. Even my partner can't settle her and i have been called home when i was out to settle her - would like to go out the odd night but can't - can anyone help?
I agree, he isn't being equal parent-he is being treated as a babysitter and he shouldn't call you home-however maybe you have been doing it all and he doesn't have the confidence. When he is there let him change nappies, get her dressed etc.
mayb i am a little over-protective. but is it really ok 2 let dd cry? ill feel guilty if i com home and dd is upset. but do take your advice on making dp do a bit more. dp always puts ds 2 bed (ds is 2) and never any problems there
RobynLou - you couldn't be more right. I never want her to get upset - but have just spoken ti dp and he is going 2 look after the kids tomoro night as it is ny birthday and i can get out wit the girls. Thanks for the advice girls - you have all given me a little more confidence and i am now thinking of how much wine to drink!!!
I agree-hand her over whan he comes in and pop out(even if only to walk around the block) start with small amounts. And Robyn is right, you are not 'letting her cry,' if he is doing his best to stop it. As it is at the moment you sound like parent in charge and he sounds like the assistant-at least that is how DD sees it!
(some men are a bit weird with dd's though, was he very hands-on when ds was tiny? as long as he knows it's no different... sometimes blokes get a bit traumatised by the idea of changing dd's nappies etc. just get him to get on with it if so, he'll get over it)