This is reasonably normal right?

[pushmepullyou]

My 25mo DD has never been a big fan of having her nappy changed and recently she has become quite distressed especially when being cleaned. She suffers on and off from a bit of toddler diaorrhea. which means she often needs a reasonably thorough clean, but she has started shouting 'no don't clean my bits' when she is wiped.

I don't think she's sore or has a UTI as she has no redness and seems perfectly comfortable the rest of the time.

She's pretty stubborn and stroppy determined and selfwilled at the best of times and I have assumed that it is to do with her becoming more independent and perhaps getting ready to potty train. 'No, I do it, mummy not do it' is a familiar cry in our house in almost any situation.

However, my DH is starting to feel quite uncomfortable with it and my DMIL questioned me at length today about how would I know if she was being abused and I think that DDs unwillingness to be cleaned is what has triggered her concern. I have no reason whatsoever to think that she is, but just thought I'd ask whether anyone else had experienced similar behaviour with their toddler?

[piprabbit]

Sounds like my DS - he won't tell me if he has a dirty nappy, when I track him down he runs of and hides and then fights me off.

In his case I think it's mostly to do with seeing a nappy change as interrupting his valuable playtime.

And he won't even consider using a potty.

[moaningminniewhingesagain]

DS is 24mo and doesn't want to let us change him either, he hasn't got the speech to say what your DD does!

But he does try to stop you wiping him, runs away whenever possible, and is generally uncooperative. I think it's pretty normal.

[pushmepullyou]

Thanks

I think it is because she does get quite upset and cries that it is unnerving. I hate knowing that I'm distressing her, but obviously can't avoid cleaning her

[NeverlandOfFun]

Can't you try distrracting her? My ds was awful at nappy changes from birth really! He just didn't want to be laid down and faffed about with! I found giving him a toy especially for nappy changes helped. Preferable something that they don't normally have access to, things with buttons or lights on are good and even my keys or mobile phone worked for a bit! Whatever takes their attention off what you are doing for a minute helps. Didn't always work but maybe 7/10 times it would stop the endless screaming and protesting!

[winnybella]

DD is 23 mo and whenever I ask her whether she's done a poo she yells 'nooooo' and runs away. Not happy when being changed either. Sounds normal to me.

[doley]

My DD 24 months is a bit like that too .

When I change her she shouts "burning Mummy ,burnin!"

I think she is remembering the time she had quite a bad rash actually .

I am going to start on the potty soon as she is also quite hard to catch lol !

[StealthPolarStuckSpaceBar]

:(
Isitworth saying ifyoudon';t want me to changeyou do your poos ion the potty?

DS uisedtoi fighr it at around 2 because it interrupted playingtime

[Memoo]

Stealth have you been drinking?

[tomhardyismydh]

over active imagination on mils part. Id say this is classic behaviour with 20+ month and nappies and poo.

i used to run dd a shallow bath some times so she could stand in in whilst i cleaned her and she can wash her self aswell.

[tomhardyismydh]

also once dd sat on the potty i was never permited to wipe her bottom ever again and she has always managed a good job her self. he is a clean freak and very particular to have everything done her way, even cleaning her own bedroom. etc.

[pushmepullyou]

Thanks all

Stealth - I'm guessing the name change explains the cryptic spelling

I think she is probably is getting ready for potty training. I am 32 weeks pregnant though, so hoping to put it off for a bit tbh! Plus it's a bit difficult as I work full time and she has various different childcare settings during the week, which could make consistency difficult. Oh well, it will be a exciting challenge for my maternity leave

I do hate that it upsets her so much though. She clamps her knees together and sobs 'no, no don't like it mummy'. I feel awful prizing her legs apart, but I really can't think of an alternative .

Went a bit better today if anything. I sympathised, promised to be quick and promised a big cuddle as soon as the clean nappy was on, which cheered her up a bit

[drivingmisscrazy]

my DD is a bit like this too (2 in about a week), clamps her legs together and protests. I think it might stem from the fact that they clean her more roughly (or perhaps thoroughly) at nursery than we do - clean off poo, quick wipe for wee. When she first started she kept saying 'no poke' which was slightly alarming...but I think whoever changed her made her cry maybe, and then said, 'oh sorry, DD, did I give you a poke?'

I think it's normal though: talk her through it and that will probably help

[SkyBluePearl]

sounds normal - mine got better after 2. responded well to distraction.