3 y old sick during the night but not calling...

[genieinabottle]

is this usual??
My niece is 3.
I won't go into details but she has various issues which are constantly brushed aside by her parents.
They view her as aa naughty child, end of!

I'm having doubts as i think she may have some sort of SN.
I could be wrong, it is a difficult situation and i don't want to push it with her parents, it's not my place.

Anyway, i had my mum on the phone today who tells me my niece is ill atm( so is my DS and that's why we talked about this), she says DN was sick last night, sick everywhere in her bed and on herself and didn't cry/call for her parents. She instead went back to sleep as she was until my sis found her like this in the morning.

That is yet another thing that i'm finding but they say she is just a child who obviously doesn't mind being dirty.

What do you think? is it 'normal' for a 3 y old to do this?

Thanks.

[pooka]

Well I think I remember ds1 doing something similar at a similar age.

It was the start of a rotten sick bug, he was shattered and had high temp and from what I can tell he was sick while in semi conscious/light sleep stage and didn't fully rouse himself. Fell back into a deep sleep.

[pooka]

Ds1 has no sn btw.

[taleasoldastime]

:( how sad. You obviously have existing concerns so I think you need to listen to your guy. But I have to say my DD (who is now 3) has done this on 2 occasions, although both when she was younger - pre 18 mths. We only found it when we went to check on her as we went to bed.

She is also now dry at night but has in the past few months had the odd accident and on a couple of occasions hasn't called then either, despite announcing it as soon as we go in in the morning as she sits in it. I can only say that she has always loved her bed and doesn't seem fazed enough by wee/sick to disturb the night . I should add that the 2nd wet bed was after we had spent some time reminding her that she should call if she had a wet bed in the night. And she does sometimes, just not all the time.

[taleasoldastime]

Sorry 'gut'

[EvilTwinsAteRudolph]

DTD1 has done that more than once - so tired from feeling poorly that she was sick, and just rolled over and went back to sleep.

I don't think it's all that unusual, tbh.

Sorry, OP, but your post comes across as quite judgey - are you actively looking for fault in your sister's parenting?

[hillyhilly]

My DD did this on two separate nights last year, there wasn't huge amounts of it but it was in her hair, she just shuffled into a clean bit of bed and carried on sleeping - she was 4 at the time.
I did say to her after the first time that she only has to call and I'll be there but she is such a heavy sleeper that I don't think she had much awareness of what happened.
My DS who is now 3 hasn't been sick in over a year but before then would regularly throw up all over himself and the bed, find a clean bit for his face and carry on sleeping.
She also has no SN

[genieinabottle]

Thanks Pooka.

If it happened in a similar way to your DS then i can see the logic in why she wouldn't call/cry.
I don't know the details as whether she had temperature or not, as i haven't spoke to my sis yet.

Maybe it's me jumping the gun over this 'incident'.

[genieinabottle]

Sorry x posted ...hadn't seen all the other replies.
Will read them now.

[genieinabottle]

Thanks for the replies.

I see it seems to be fairly common from what i read, well it happens.

Eviltwinsaterudolph, i wasn't intentionally being judgey about my sister's parenting.
The only thing i am bothered with is the fact that there are been issues in the past and recently that are being dismissed by my sis and her DH. Every single problem is being put on the account of their DD 's personality and character.
They themselves always say their DD is a naughty stubborn child,...etc

On a couple of occasions i raise as nicely as i could the possibility of SN and we had a terrible row. So i'm threading lightly now.

For background, my DS2 has SN, he has autism and i see lots of similarities and behaviours between him and my DN, that is why i'm concerned.