DS is nearly 4. Since being a toddler he has been intense in SOME friendships. Always he's intense with younger and/or less assertive children. When he was younger he would smother them with sloppy kisses. Now he wants to play with them (when with them) all of the time, and can't read their body language if they don't want to play with him.
I have not really thought too much about this in the past as when with more assertive children DS's play is totally normal and fine.
But at nursery now (they've brought this to my attention and I can see it for myself) DS has made friends with a little boy who is often into it and sometimes not at all and DS will not leave him alone. Nursery are trying to get him to play with other children but not all that successfully. They say he always goes for less assertive children to make friends with and has to be in control.
DS stays for one extra afternoon and his friend is not there then. Nursery say (and I've observed when picking him up) that for this afternoon he is totally fine and plays with a whole mixture of children and on his own.
I just want to know if any of you have experienced anything like this and what I should be doing.
Unfortunately the 'friend' and DS will be going to the same school - probably - and I'm worried, even if they're in a different class that it will spill into the rest of DS's school life.
Having said that if it wasn't this child it would probably be another one.
Thank you.
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4 yr old really intense in friendships
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skewiff · 13/12/2010 11:18
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