Because I handled it badly. Very badly.
My nearly 4 year old DS is being incredibly 'challenging' lately. He is particularly defiant - usually to deliberately wind us up. Getting dressed in the morning is sometimes a flashpoint so I generally get him (and his big sister) started 30 minutes before I need him dressed so I have plenty of time to deal with him calmly when he starts messing around. He used up the full 30 minutes this morning but eventually got there and I remained calm. But just as we were about to leave for school he decides he's not wearing his coat, hat and gloves. It's below zero and a 15 minute walk to school so this is simply not an option. I did try physically wrangling him into them but he's a sturdy boy and I got nowhere with this approach.
So, what would you have done?
And also, any tips for dealing with a child who refuses to do anything you ask him to do whilst smirking to try and wind you up. He is also now doing things that he's not supposed to do i.e leaving banana skins and rubbish lying on the floor. Again he wants to wind me up as he smirks at me when I tell him to put it in the bin etc. Some stuff just can't be ignored but any attempt to deal with his behaviour seems to make it worse. I should add that, despite being 1 of 3, he gets loads of attention and I make sure to spend a decent portion of the day doing stuff with him.
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Ok, so how would you have handled this?
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MrsGravy · 06/12/2010 09:45
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