My child can be over excited

[Suzanne001]

Hi everyone.

Does anyone else out there have a child who get's super over excited? Especially around other children. My little one is 3.5 and she is quite behind in her speech. She knows loads of words but still sometimes struggles with forming a sentence that makes any sense. Does this ring true with anybody else.

Any reply would be appreciated.
Thanks
Suzanne x

[namechangingchick]

Hi
Yes my DS gets mega over excited especially around other children. I had to physically restrain him at a toddler group so that the leader could set up, as he was screaming and running in circles round the room .
He is only 2.0 so a bit younger than your DD, and I think he is very marginally behind in his speech, but I'm not worried about it.

Does she see other children often? My DS doesn't and I've often thought that may be the reason.

Have you seen the health visitor?

[Suzanne001]

Hi!

No, we haven't seen the health visitor about it only because as soon as we decide to take her she seems to improve. Typical!

She did start pre school pretty late so she didn't really mix as much as she should. I hope that's all it is.

Toddler group was a bit of nightmare though. I had to do exactly the same. Other mums though would look at me as though it was something that I had done. That's quite tough to take to say the least.

Does your little one have megga tantrums too?

Suzanne x

[namechangingchick]

Oh it's so hard isn't it - I had everyone looking at me, while I had to restrain a red faced, wriggling and kicking toddler. I have to admit that I had to hold back the tears - I had this overwhelming feeling of being "the only one", and it's not nice to feel like that and have everyone staring. He doesn't have mega tantrums (yet), but he does have a tantrum if he is restrained when he wants to do something, like above.

He was a very unsettled baby as well, which I really struggled with as I had all the "looks" as well, which made my PND even worse.

I'm sure it's normal - I feel like a complete outsider sometimes, but then I have a friend at the same toddler group whose son is cripplingly quiet and clingy, so again, not the norm, but doesn't draw attention to himself IYSWIM?

[ragged]

I have an over-excitable 6yo.
Public tantrums are still his norm.. He has 2 older siblings, so nothing to do with lack of contact with other children.

[Suzanne001]

That's what everyone keeps telling me. "i'd much rather have a child who was over the top than struggling to make friends in the corner of the room". But the problem is, mine does struggle to make friends because she is so full on. She literally will burst in to a room and say hello to everyone and ask everyone's name individually and they usually don't reply and give her this "are you all there?"kind of look, which is heartbreaking as her mum.

I hope yours just sticks to the ocasional tantrum.

[Sarahsmile]

Omg... have a ds just the same he is nearly 5 and wants to be friends with everyone and will go up to anybody and ask name... do you want to play etc... he starts school next wk so will intersting to see how he copes with that as am sure will be going over to the older boys for a game of football!!! Can get v excitable when friends come over to play but also very bosy and will go int the huff if doesnt get his own way... Had really bad day today when friend came over with her little boy and his behavour was a nighmare... ended up with him at one point marching off saying he was going to his rooma and then slamming the door, was mortified and very embarrassed... then when friend went was fine... God its like living with a teenager... am starting to get very worried... everyone keeps saying he will calm down when he starts the school...just hope so!!!!

[eldark]

Hi there, I know this thread is a million years old and it's silly to respond but my daughter (21months) is exactly the same as yours was. I was just wondering how things worked out in the end??

[Quency25]

Hi @eldark i know your reply was a few years ago but i just wondered how things were? In almost the same situation x

[platinumplus]

I love it when a thread pops up from 13 years ago 🤣

I am not the op but I did comment on this post- my ds is now 15 and autistic/dyspraxic. Obviously always has been but I didn't know back then.

[eldark]

Hi @Quency25, yes my daughter will be 6 in January and she has calmed down a lot in terms of how she gets on socially. She definitely still wants connection and really wants a best friend and seems to care a lot about being liked etc. but her ability to throw herself in and make friends is generally a really positive thing. We do fins after a social thing or day at school though that she will often have a meltdown as I think she doesn't regulate that well. As I say, she throws herself in full pelt and gets right into the heart of things but never takes a time out and then crashes afterwards....whereas my 3 yo will take herself out of a situation and play alone or ask for cuddles and chills out. So it's still a work in progress, her speech was behind and has come on hugely from 3 on and that helped but there might still be some ND like ADHD there possibly...but she can definitely happily hang out with other kids and respects personal space way more. I'm not sure how big a factor it was that she is a big sister...but we were coming from a place where she didn't have huge exposure to other kids so I'm sure that would help too.