My best friend (who is godmother to my DD) wants to name her baby the same name as DD. Not her Western name (which is some ways are more easy to share) but a traditional name, usually considered and tailored carefully for the meaning and characters.
I don't mind that she wants to use the same name. But she's been considering a few names (one of them my DD's) openly for the last few months but without acknowledging or checking to see if its ok with me.
Again, its not like I needed her to ask for permission. I would have been happy and flattered if she had brought it up ... something like 'I hope that's ok' in passing would be greatly appreciated.
Now that she's quite determined that she'll like to use DD's name, she's finally emailed 'I hope you do not mind terribly if we ended up with xxx'.
And now, all I can think is, I wouldn't have minded. But its not like you bothered to see if I did. And its not like you would change it if I did too.
But I don't want to be petty about names. And I wish I could let her know how I feel.
Does that make sense? AIBU?
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greenday · 16/09/2009 08:06
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