AIBU to want my child to have my second name and not my DP?
We've been together 5 years and this is my first pregnancy. He always made it clear he wasn't interested in marriage and I've always said that if we were not married and had children then they would take my name.
At first he was not happy about this but clearly got over it as one is now on the way.
His family who claim to be great liberals are upset about this decision and keep pestering him to propose to me.
I've said that I want to be married if he wants to actually marry me not just because I am now pregnant and he feels it's the only way for his child to have his second name.
I've also said I won't be a pregnant bride so it's too little too late (nothing wrong with pregnant brides by the way!)
If we did get married in years to come and our children were still very young then I would change their names or if they were older they would of course have the choice- to be honest I'm not even sure Id want to change my name now after all of this!!
Another point that bothers me so much is that I feel a bit insulted- what is wrong with my name anyway? That's probably just the pregnant sensitive woman in me though!
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emilyls · 22/06/2018 20:40
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