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I don't want to use one of DH's 'family' names

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StillNoFuckingEyeDeer Sat 16-Jan-16 16:24:40

DH and I find it impossible to agree on a name for a boy. We just seem to have very different tastes. In addition to this, he wants to use a 'family' name, but I dislike the names of all his male relatives. He wants to use a name from his side, but isn't keen to use one from mine. DC will have DH's surname (I still use my own). I think that even if it is only a middle name, I shouldn't have to give my child s name I dislike just because it's a 'family' name, when they have his family surname. AIBU?

ImperialBlether Sat 16-Jan-16 16:26:51

Of course you don't give a name you dislike. I would avoid using any family names, tbh. I think it often leads to problems.

New baby, new name.

But in any case if it's his surname I'd say it isn't fair to have his family first name too.

Sedona123 Sat 16-Jan-16 16:30:59

YANBU. My DH's family had always named the first born son of the first born son the same name. I obviously don't dislike my DH's name, but neither of us wanted to give our DS that name, so we picked another. DS does have the other name as his middle name though.

CrystalMcPistol Sat 16-Jan-16 17:36:14

Not keen to use a family name from your side but wants a first name and surname from his.

That sounds fair.

SoWhite Sat 16-Jan-16 18:19:32

Nope, you don't have to do it. Please don't.

Write a list of 30 names, and see what those lists have in common. Only place to start when partners have completely different ideas.

PuppyMonkey Sat 16-Jan-16 18:25:44

Is your DH a Plantagenet or something? Is he worried about his heir? grin

WhirlwindHugs Sat 16-Jan-16 18:31:26

Just keep saying no - we didn't follow the family tradition on DHs side, we knew there might be a bit of fuss, but in the end no one said anything about it!

Rpj16 Sat 16-Jan-16 18:54:36

If he gets his own way, ensure you have full choice over the 2nd child (make that the agreement) and choose something whacky.

magpie17 Sat 16-Jan-16 19:18:06

Just say no. I kept my own surname when we got married but agreed that DS could have DHs surname on the understanding that I got final say on his first and middle names. If DH hasn't agreed to that then DS would have been given my surname.

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