What to do?

[confusedduck86]

Well me and my now ex boyfriend both decided we liked a name for our son and he was going to have a family name for his middle name and a double barelled surname. Since then I've found out he was cheating on me, so I've moved back in with my parents and he has only texted me twice and that was 2 days after he confessed he was seeing someone else. It has now been 8 weeks and I've not heard anything from him and I'm 33 weeks pregnant. I don't know what to do about his name though? I really don't want to contact him as he was the one that cheated and if he can't be arsed then i don't see why i should be. I've gone off the first name we initially both liked, but i still like the middle name and I'm really not happy about having the double barelled name and only want my surname. Would you ditch the first name and pick the one you like now? I'm a bit lost really!

[helendigestives]

Pick the one you like. He's buggered off with someone else and hasn't even checked how his child's doing for the last eight weeks. Definitely only use your surname.

[flamegirl77]

Agreed. Sorry you've had to go through this. Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy!

[NurseSunshine]

Pick a name you like.
Me and my now ex were going to have Firstname Mymum'sname Hismum'sname DoublebarelledSurname. He left at 10 weeks and I haven't heard from his mum or anything so am only using my mum's name and my surname.

[livinlavidaloca]

IMO he gave up any rights to having as much input as you with regards to the child's name when he cheated - start afresh, new name, your last name - if he can do what the hell he likes then so can you. I'm sorry to hear you've had to go through this but take comfort in the fact that you can now be the stronger person and do as you wish with regards to your child's name. I wish you all the best.

[MelinaM]

Absolutely, choose a new 'fresh' name that you love, and a family name from your side as a mn and then your surname, perfect

[confusedduck86]

Thanks everyone that replied, all sorted now and will definately pick the name i like for the first name, my grandads name for his middle name as i adored him and my surname only :D

[livinlavidaloca]

Nice one! Out of interest, what name have you gone for?

[confusedduck86]

Samuel Ernest and surname of 2 syllables beginning with a H. Probably wont be liked by many on here as it's prob too boring or wet or something, but i couldn't care less!

[SolarPanel]

Very nice :)

[nigglewiggle]

I think it sounds like a great name - strong and distinguished.

[notanumber]

That's a lovely name. Good luck with the birth and enjoy your son!

[ValiumBandwitch]

Pick the name you like and leave his sur name off the birth cert. It can be added on later, but it can never be removed.

[flopsy1974]

Glad you've decided to pick the name you like and stick with just your surname. Stick to your guns and good luck.

[Rhubarbgarden]

Great name. Good luck.

[grubbalo]

It's a really lovely name. Good for you and good luck.

[MelinaM]

Fabulous decision

[A1980]

Lovely name.

If he doesn't bother to contact you, don't contact him. If he doesn't go on the birth ertificate then he wont have parental responsibility.

[confusedduck86]

Thanks for the replies, tbh i love the nn Sam and no doubt that's what he'll be known as from day one anyway so i dont mind. Plus my nephew is learning to talk and is obsessed with fireman Sam and keeps putting his hand on my belly saying Sam on repeat, which i think is cute. I'm not going to add my exs name purely because of what he did and i dont want my son to have part of his name if he cant be arsed. If he changes in the next 7 weeks then we'll have to think about it, but i know i'm not going to make any effort with him first. In some ways i hope he never contacts me as he's a waste of space and i can see him letting my son down all the time with visits and stuff. Who needs a man anyway :) hehe!