Not sure why I'm writing this really, feeling a bit all over the place so I suppose I'm looking for other people's input right now because I'm not ready to talk about it with others in real life (other than my dh and best friend so far)
I have a ds who is 8 with cystic fibrosis. We are pregnant again (planned) unsure about whether to have prenatal genetic testing and then a termination for medical reasons if this baby has cf or continue without testing and hope for the best. On a practical and emotional level my dh and I can cope with another child with medical needs however, because the disease is so unpredictable we won't know how the baby will be effected and what quality of life it will have. There are also risks with cross infection and our older child passing bacteria to the baby and vise versa and them both ending up ill.
I'm only 5 weeks pregnant but I love the baby already and keep getting excited when I think about he/she joining our family in 8 months time. But I'm not sure if it's incredibly selfish of us to bring a baby into the world knowing it will suffer and may not have a good quality of life and may impact negatively on my ds (and my ds impact negatively on the baby).
This decision seemed so much easier when we were ttc and the baby was hypothetical. Now I'm pregnant I'm struggling so much with what is the best thing to do and what is best for our family.
Has anyone been in a similar situation before? For example got pregnant knowing there's a 1 in 4 chance the baby won't be healthy and then had to make these decisions?
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BobbinsBoo1 · 21/01/2017 17:53
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