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Imeg · 2013-07-08 16:46:18

I am 6 weeks pregnant and thought I was prepared for this but am feeling very confused. The baby has a 50% chance of having ectrodactyly, which affects the shape of the hands and feet. We looked into PGD but it wasn't possible as the tests wouldn't pick up the particular genetic changes. Therefore the options are CVS at 12 weeks, with a risk of miscarriage, or to wait for the 20 week scan. CVS would tell us whether the baby has inherited the gene or not but would not tell us the severity, which can be very variable. I feel very confused about what the right thing to do is. On the one hand, this condition is not life threatening and I can see from all your posts how distressing a termination can be, especially as late as 20 weeks. On the other hand I am worried that it is irresponsible to bring a child into the world knowing that it has a problem that I could have prevented. This is complicated by the fact that it has taken us several years to conceive (we were actually just waiting for an appointment with a fertility specialist when I found out I was pregnant) and I am worried that it might not happen again. Any thoughts would be appreciated although I accept that people may feel it was irresponsible of us to get pregnant in the first place, or that it is wrong to consider a termination for what may seem a relatively mild condition compared to some that have been mentioned on here, and if so I respect your views

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