HG

[8081994Nh]

Hello, not even sure if anyone will see this, or if this is the right place to post... anyway I'm looking for some advice. I am 30 weeks pregnant with a beautiful healthy baby boy but since week 10 of pregnancy I have been severely sick most days and when not sick feeling very sick and horrible, not to mention the tiredness and aches. The doctor has been pretty helpful and I'm on tablets that help on occasion after trying 5 different types. The problem is the absolute guilt im feeling for being unable to look after my daughter properly, myself. Can't keep the house as clean as I'm used to and have been off work continuously which also makes me feel so guilty leaving the team to everything at work. My partner is quite helpful although I'm not sure if it's just my hormones making me feel he could do more. He keeps telling me I am making no effort with his family because I haven't seen them for a while due to how I'm feeling. I've also suffered with anxiety and depression for as far back as I can remember and this really doesn't help. I have no family or friends to confide in and am just looking for some advice or even to know others have been through this. Thank you

[Hardheadedwoman39]

I know exactly how you feel and am sending you a huge hug.

I've had HG in two of my pregnancies and I'm now on number four and have suffered antenatal depression - currently 28 weeks.

I have a toddler to look after full time too.

The guilt of feeling like you're not able to do anything properly is crippling, it's lonely and it feels like nobody gets it. I don't think people can unless they've experienced it.

I've had some acupuncture and craniology which has definitely helped. And finally actually telling people that it's not just a bit difficult but actually AWFUL has been a relief.

Please don't be hard on yourself, rest as much as you can and if you can find someone to talk to who might get it then do.

Another big hug x

[stepbystepdoula]

I really feel for you HG is so debilitating, people underestimate it.
I found that nothing much helped physically, but mentally acceptance that this will pass, it's not forever, you will be more independant again, this helped.
Look for some support postnatally if you need it too 💚