Hi,
I'm wondering if anyone can recognise if what I'm going through is a little more than just baby name remorse...
My beautiful boy is 8 weeks old and he is my world, I'm obsessed with him. Stare at him pretty much all day and if he goes to my mums for an hour or 2 so I can do housework etc I miss him so much I cry!
However I can't stop thinking about his name - it's on my mind pretty much all the time. He has s very solid boys name but we couldn't decide on middle names - it stressed me out so much I was up googling names in the middle of the night for the first few weeks of his life as we just couldn't settle on one. It started to make me feel really anxious that he didn't have his full name and I felt so sick with worry that i could barely eat and my weight fell off really quickly. Even once I decided I then kept changing my mind - right up until the day we registered him and I got in such a flap that I gave him 2 middle names in a last minute decision - I now really don't like his full name, it's a bit of a mouthful and I had a panic attack the night after we registered him because I knew I had made a mistake. Now 4 weeks on from registering him and it's still getting me down, I can't stop feeling like I have failed in my first job as a parent and can't even bring myself to write his name in his baby book. I know I can change it and I wish I had just gone with the name my partner wanted as at least he would of been happy but it was slightly unusual and I panicked thinking it wasn't fair to lumber our beautiful boy with an unusual name with strange spelling even if it is only a middle name that never gets used. I know it can be changed but I have a feeling the guilt of making an amendment on his BC and explaining all this to him one day will be worse than the guilt I am feeling now for not getting it right? I'm totally obsessed with thinking abut this which is why I think there may be more to it. The day before I had him I was really anxious and I think I had a bit of pre natal anxiety about life changing so much etc... I'm not sure if my anxiety has just shifted onto this as I can't shake it. The older he's getting the more upset I am that I don't feel settled on his name yet as it makes me feel more and more of a failure.
I guess I'm just wondering if what I'm feeling is more than a bit of name remorse as the logical part of me knows it's only middle names so doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things but it's making me feel ill! Does anyone have any experience of something similar?
Ps - sorry that was so long - middle of the night rambles!
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user1466260191 · 08/07/2016 03:58
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