Exepcting twins and husband so angry and remote all the time- pre natal depression?

[twingeeksSE8]

Just wondering if anyone has had to support their husband or partner through pre-natal depression and if there are any tips anyone can give?
I'm coming up to 6 months pregnant and what I thought was my husband's distant and irritable behaviour due to initial fears about a) becoming a dad unplanned and b) finding out I'm expecting twins doesn't seem to be getting any better, in fact it's getting worse.
After almost weekly rows that can't seem to be resolved about how I feel lonely and unsupported and his using work as an excuse to come home really late, his reluctance to talk about anything pregnancy related and what seems like mourning for his perceived loss of his independence, i can't take any more.
I've done some googling and I'm convinced he has pre-natal depression as he has a history of depression, although has had no episodes since we've been together (4 years). He's already on anti-depressants so I'm really stuck as to what I can do to try and help the situation to improve. Any ideas?

[sandgrown]

I really feel for you. I live with someone who is still bdepressed though he takes medication and it is awful . I do not know how you are coping with a twin pregnancy as well. Do you have any family support? Would DP speak to someone about his concerns? Look after yourself and your babies.

[twingeeksSE8]

Thanks, it's really nice to hear some kind words from someone who understands! Unfortunately i can't count on family and none of my friends have kids so i feel a bit out on a limb. He's agreed to go to the GP and talk so I guess that's something. Just so hard not to feel resentful towards him.

[garun12]

I think that everything will change after the babies are born. He will inevitably start to feel attachment to the twins and it will change everything. Please try to stay calm and don't argue with him or demand anything as it will make the situation even worse. If he doesn't want to talk about your pregnancy, don't push. I wouldn't. Talk about topics that he's interested in, i.e his job, friends, interests. My husband is a very busy person and I knew he wasn't much interested in baby shopping when I was pregnant. So I stopped bothering him with that and did everything myself. Let him come closer to you and the babies by himself which will happen soon, believe you me. Just don't push him at this stage.