Hi, I'm new to Mumsnet and although I have friends and a lovely husband that I can talk to I really feel as though I need support in another more anonymous setting. I feel incredibly anxious and upset and have been experiencing irrational and highly intrusive thoughts which are worrying me. Just to give a bit of background I am 9 weeks pregnant after years of trying and all the heartache that comes with that. This is where I will get flamed but here goes: 4 years ago I had a later term abortion that still haunts me to this day. It was incredibly traumatic and awful because of the circumstances surrounding it. I very stupidly made the biggest mistake of my life and slept with another man. I then had to confess to my husband and we had a horrific time going through prenatal DNA testing etc and ultimately it turned out to be the other persons. I had what can only be described as a complete breakdown and was signed off work for 6 months as well as being on anti d's. I had intensive one on one counselling after the termination and myself and my husband went to relate. Amazingly he decided to stand by me and things have got better ever since and I feel now as though we have a very strong and loving relationship despite the past. So now I am pregnant which we are so pleased about but for the last few days I have felt horrific. Things keep playing around in my mind and I'm also convincing myself that it may not be my husbands which I know sounds mad. I keep thinking we will have to go through the same process and these thoughts are playing around in my brain whilst I'm at work and to be honest are stopping me from functioning. How can I combat this? I am meeting with my midwife next week and intend to be fully honest about how I've been feeling but it's so strange as this has only come on over the last few days. For the first few weeks after the positive result I was so happy. We have also had an early scan and I was so pleased that all was well. I'm very distressed by these thoughts as I know there is no logical basis behind them.
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