DS1 is now 7-and-a-half months old, and thanks to some really good CBT counselling, I am starting to feel like I am coming out of the other side of this horrible illness.
However, now I am feeling less anxious, less bleak, and am starting to enjoy my DS more, I keep having these horrible moments like vertigo where I look back on the early months of his life, the first 4 months in particular, and feel abolsutely devastated that I I didn't enjoy a single minute of it :(
I HATED the newborn stage. Does that make me a terrible person? I am never going to get those months/weeks back again. I want to stamp my feet like a child and shout at the top of my voice ITS NOT FUCKING FAIR!!! why did this have to happen to me?? Why couldn't I just find it easy? Or at least find it hard like most people but not to the extent where I lost myself for a few months :(
Not helped by my best friend just having her baby a couple of weeks ago, who seems to be a really settled happy little baby who's taken to breast feeding really well and is to all intents and purposes, a delight (compare and contrast with my colicky, breast-feeding fail DS, who spent the first 4 months of his life mostly screaming his head off).
Anyway, I don't know why I am writing this post, or what I am looking for....reassurance that it's normal to feel like this? Reassurance that it won't definitely happen again if we ever have another child? Just empathy from someone else who has felt like this?
Just wish I could put the clock back and go and have a word with my 40-week-pregnant self and tell me that the sleep deprivation would get better, the colic would get better, the bottle feeding wouldn't really make a massive difference to his development so stop stressing about it etc etc.
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Coming out the other end of PND and feel devastated about what I have 'missed'
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BotBotticelli · 16/07/2013 14:13
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