Early pregnancy and depression

[rainand]

Hi,

I'm around 7 weeks pregnant, and I'm feeling extremely low. I've hoped for death and have even looked into abortion as I'm not sure I can cope anymore. Besides nausea I also have severe digestive problems which cause a lot of pain and has not been diagnosed. I don't know what to do, my life just feels completely flat and it feels like there is nothing left to live for. I feel like giving up work too. I also now doubt I'll be able to be a good mother to baby and how will I cope? Is there a light at the end of the tunnel?

[DizzyHoneyBee]

Hugs Rainand, there is a light at the end of tunnel really. Your hormones will be raging all over the place and you've got a lot of changes going on. Can you find a way to pamper yourself? Favourite TV programme/a magazine/new book/some lovely bath oil.
Have you considered talking to your GP about how you feel?

[bansku]

Hi Rainand,

I had antenatal depression and it was awful. I felt really low and wanted to die and was thinking of abortion. But there is help.
Contact your MW/GP and ask about antenatal mental healt team. They will provide meds/councelling/etc. I got loads of help form them. My depression was worst at the begining of the pregnancy but got better the further the pregnancy went.

[lisa2104]

Please help me. I am 19 weeks pregnant. My last period was on 6/6 and I did a test on 14/7 that said I was 2-3 weeks gone. I had a scan on 30/8 that said I was 12 weeks and 1 day. Me and my fiance had sex most dat from 23/6-30/6 . I went out on 6/7 and got very drunk. I had a conversation with my boss in a side corridor of a bar but there would have been people coming and going. I think we had an argument and I may have said something flirty to him. But he called me a taxi and threw me in it. The problem is I keep worrying that I could've had sex with my boss and got pregnant by him or the taxi driver who took me home and I don't remember. I'm going out of my mind with worry and so scared I won't know who my baby's dad is as I have no idea who the taxi driver was. I can't eat or sleep I'm not bonding with my bump and my fiancé is finding if hard because I'm crying and worrying about this day and night. I feel like killing myself. This started because I have irregular periods and was checking to see if the scan could be a bit out but it has spiralled out of control. Help me!

[lisa2104]

I have now left that job but he knew I was pregnant and wasn't weird with me or anything

[cupcake78]

I want to give all you ladies who are struggling some hope!

I had a breakdown in January and am still recovering. I pushed myself too hard for too long and didnt tell anyone! I found pmt unbearable. I have had months of counselling masses of support and am on sertraline! I have gone back yo work and am starting to build up slowly. One of my many problems was fear of pregnancy after many miscarriages at many stages of pregnancy. I am 4wks pregnancy and can feel the difference the hormones and tiredness of early pregnancy are making already. Some of what your feeling will be heightened by the hormones, this makes it very difficult to deal with on your own.

Please seek some help. It is available and you don't have to do this on your own. Your also not going mad, you know something isn't right and that's a really good sign.

Speak to someone either your mw or gp ideally both.

[lisa2104]

I feel like I'm not suffering from depression though because if I hadn't gone out that night I would have nothing to worry about! That's what's doing my head in!

[lisa2104]

And I think u r a very amazing woman cupcake78. I'm pushing my fiancé away. He's just told me he didn't even war to kiss my bump goodbye

[rainand]

Thank you everyone. I've got an appointment with the midwife next week and will definitely ask her for help. I think people around me are noticing I'm not excited about the pregnancy - how can one be when is experiencing such huge turmoil? :-(

[lisa2104]

How are u feeling rainand? I got ten times worse since the other day and am definitely needing help. Because I got so bad I'm wondering how u r coping?

[rainand]

Hi Lisa,

Thanks for asking! I'm sorry to hear that. what have you done to make yourself feel a bit better??

I still haven't had the courage to tell GP or midwife. I'm considering abortion ... But I'm not sure. Gosh I have no idea what to do, it is an isolating experience. :-(

[lisa2104]

I went to the hospital until they took me seriously and saw a psychiatric nurse and doctor! I've let myself down a bit though because I rang my ex boss and asked him about that night! Although he said I just tried to kiss him but I wish I hadn't felt the need to ask him. And now I feel that he thinks I go around acting like a slapper but its done now and I have to move on. I am waiting for a referral to a counsellor but it seems to be taking a while. I cat really concentrate on much but I live in hope. Do u have a supportive partners can talk to? Please go to your doctor or midwife. I was really scared they would think I was a lunatic but they were lovely and I'm looking forward to my baby now