The phrase she used was "You have to break the child", and the situation was where one mum went to pick up off the floor the crying baby of another mum and was told to leave her alone as she would just get used to being picked up .
The mum of the thread title then chimed in with "Oh yes, stick to your guns. You have to break the child. Been there, done that."
Which both the wanting-to-pick-up mum and I thought was a horrible phrase and, frankly, a very harsh attitude altogether.
But there were a number of mums in the group nodding and agreeing.
Incidentally, the baby was not just crying for the sake of it - she'd been stuck on the floor under the table while everyone else was either off playing or sitting at the table chatting/having snacks, and she quite clearly (I thought) wanted to be part of what was going on and was not happy being completely ignored.
The mum who said this does have a very different parenting style to mine, I admit; she's much more shouty and strict, and seems to often be very bad-tempered with her 4yo ds. But I still thought that the idea of "breaking your child" is horrible.
Or am I just a big old softie?
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HopeForTheBestExpectTheWorst · 28/10/2009 11:19
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