DD2 and I go to a local messy Play group on a wednesday morning....its generally populated by playgroup Mums and the younger siblings of playgroup children so I know everyone and everyone knows each other...
Heck in other times it would be called clique-y...
Anyway....the group leader (lovely older lady who gives up a huge amount of her time to run this, the 2s group and the Brownies in this church) has frequently stated that this is an activity for parents to do WITH their children...parents are to supervise their children and do the activities together.
Now, I know everyone but a few of the Mums are a very friendly with each other and now just drop their children off, say to their friends (or all of us actually) "can you keep an eye on child, I'm just nipping out"...and then go to the shops, or doctors appointments etc....while the rest of us do the messy play activities with our own children AND their children, clean them up, stem the tears, etc etc etc...
One Mum is particularly bad for this - she spent 90 mins a few weeks ago going to a supermarket out of town for Hannah Montana party stuff while her DD was left with everyone at Messy Play. One other Mum rarely comes herself but has an arrangement where her friend brings her daughter along with her own..
When I went in this morning I passed another Mum getting into her car and heading off while her daughter was lef tin Messy Play...
ITS NOT A DROP OFF AND GO ACTIVITY. And, although it doesn't directly affect me (I'm never asled solely to look after anyone else's children, but I'm part of the collective looking after) it does mean that we have a lot less adults than we should have for clearing up, supervising etc etc etc...
I think the lady who runs it does her best, but these friends all seem to think thats fine and have that arrangement within themselves to drop and go so the lady who runs it is outnumbered by it all.
Its a group for children from 2.5 to 4.5 ish (basically 2.5 to preschool) and it can be very full of tired, tantrumming toddlers getting a bit rough close to lunchtime (my DD was the only child not in tears at one point a few weeks ago)..
AIBU by being narked by this....(and its HONESTLY not because I'm not in this group of friends and I can't get anyone to look after my DD while I go off and do errands - this is an activity that my DD and I do together...)
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Bathsheba · 07/10/2009 17:10
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