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to think that men in cars shouldn't shout at women and children on bikes but that if they do it's ok for me to shout back a bit!

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Northernlurker · 22/09/2009 19:21

Ok - I feel quite cross and upset with myself about this but something in me just snapped!

dd2 (8yrs old) and I are cycling up the road towards a T junction. I glance behind me preparing to signal right and there is a car absolutely roaring up the road. We're not very quick (I had dd3 in a seat on the back as wellas dd2 on her own bike) so I judged there wasn't time to signal and move right across. I stayed on the left side of the road for a moment hoping he would roar past then realised he had slowed right down so I signalled and moved over to the right stopping because of traffic at the T. As we moved across he hooted at us, so I glanced sideways at him at the junction in what I like to think was a fairly snubbing, what's your problem way. He already had the window down and as soon as we made eye contact started shouting at me about how we shouldn't be ther etc etc. So I shouted back saying that if he hadn't been going too fast there wouldn't be a problem. He said something like 'no it's you all over the road' and so I shouted back that people like him made people like me frightended to cycle with their children. (dd2 was crying btw)He said something else - can't remember what and I told him to get lost then there was a breal in the traffic and we both left the scene. I was so cross I was crying too

So - I would fully hold my hands up to a moment of indecision - but I didn't endanger dd2 or myself by that, just held him up for about 10 seconds. Did I really deserve to be shouted at? I shouldn't have shouted back but I was just so cross and dd2 was upset and once you've started shouting you might as well have the last word I guess.

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UniS · 22/09/2009 19:29

Ignore, move on, put it down to teh stupidity of car only drivers who have never cycled on teh road. You looked, risk assessed, signalled and manuvererd, just like a road user should. They would have shouted regardless of what you did and regardless of your having kids with you or no.

Your kids will hopefully grow up with road sence ingrained.

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Northernlurker · 22/09/2009 19:31

thanks

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diddl · 22/09/2009 19:32

OMG!

Thank god I´m in Germany with cycle paths & priority to cross most roads!

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Northernlurker · 22/09/2009 19:34

We actually live in one of the most cycle friendly cities in the UK and I've just remembered it was car free day here today - oh the irony! May have to move to Germany...

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pjmama · 22/09/2009 19:36

He sounds like a selfish dickhead and not worth another moment's thought. Don't let it bother you.

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UniS · 22/09/2009 19:48

arrrr, car fee day... so the shouty driver was feeling all pressured and browbeaten and had the world against them :-) Poor thing, must be dreadfull to be so insecure.

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