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to have another whinge about my SIL?

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RealityIsNOTDetoxing Sat 05-Sep-09 19:58:25

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Northernlurker Sat 05-Sep-09 20:04:00

She sounds spoilt and unpleasant.

Niftyblue Sat 05-Sep-09 20:05:25

She sounds a PITA

RealityIsNOTDetoxing Sat 05-Sep-09 20:06:33

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PrincessToadstool Sat 05-Sep-09 20:07:46

She sounds depressed to me. This + other threads I mean, not this alone. She must be a very anxious and worried person.

cocolepew Sat 05-Sep-09 20:08:59

She's a charmer isn't she, nice to have a bit of sympathy hmm

bigchris Sat 05-Sep-09 20:09:20

i'd let him convalesce round yours

cocolepew Sat 05-Sep-09 20:09:39

Oh is this the one from the day out at the beach thread?

NeedaNewName Sat 05-Sep-09 20:11:00

Wow that sounds like a marriage made in hell - whatever happended to in sickness and in health?

oldraver Sat 05-Sep-09 20:12:32

I was going to ask that.. is she the miserable beach woman

RealityIsNOTDetoxing Sat 05-Sep-09 20:15:52

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cocolepew Sat 05-Sep-09 20:16:54

Did you get a chance to speak to her? Weren't you hoping to at a BBQ?

PrincessToadstool Sat 05-Sep-09 20:18:30

Well Reality, don't. He is a grown up, no?

And feeling sorry for her son is sad, to him she is the best mummy in the world because she's his mummy. Isn't that enough?

RealityIsNOTDetoxing Sat 05-Sep-09 20:18:52

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cocolepew Sat 05-Sep-09 20:21:32

I can see why you'd be so pissed off. Does nobody ever pull her up? Not in a nasty way, my mil got away with murder by acting like this, but everyone let it pass for a quiet hmm life.

Until I came along smile.

Tee2072 Sat 05-Sep-09 20:23:01

Oh please. I am a depressive from way back. That doesn't give her a license to be such a bitch to her DH.

RealityIsNOTDetoxing Sat 05-Sep-09 20:24:43

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KIMItheThreadSlayer Sat 05-Sep-09 20:25:55

Wow she is an A list bitch.

PrincessToadstool Sat 05-Sep-09 20:29:12

So because you weren't like that when depressed, she is not allowed to be? I have lived with depression my entire life and I'm not like that either, but I can't claim to be an expert on how depression should affect anyone other than me.

RealityIsNOTDetoxing Sat 05-Sep-09 20:32:03

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PrincessToadstool Sat 05-Sep-09 20:38:16

But that's between her and her DH, isn't it?

Look I am just being devil's advocate. I just always feel sad when I read your threads about her. I feel sorry for her. Maybe she is just vile and you are not biased, I don't know. I just think - I could have been like that. Sunk into it. IT is actually pretty easy to become a bitch even if you don't want to be. Even if it kills you inside. Easier than saying I am struggling, please help me. I do this to DP now and then. Go to bed early, tell him not to hug me. It's not nice but it's easy. In my defence because this is MN and everyone loves to fucking twist things, I do it in short bursts and DP knows me and it is over within hours and I can open up again but I have those moments where I retreat and probably always will.God knows what my SIL would think of me???

And tbh if your BIL can't stand up for himself, well more fool him. My DP wouldn't sleep on a sofabed because he's not a doormat. If her DH is well it's not up to you to save him!

RealityIsNOTDetoxing Sat 05-Sep-09 20:42:58

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cocolepew Sat 05-Sep-09 20:43:52

Would she really buy a sofa bed shock. Have you spoken to your DB about her?

I know some people who act like this, do it because they have some type of mental health problems, but sometimes people are just selfsh gits. I kow 3 or 4 of the top of my head, they were/are pandered to by nice, quiet men, IYSWIM.

LovelyLulu Sat 05-Sep-09 20:44:33

Reality, does her DH never stick up for himself? She just can't cope with putting herself out.

Tee2072 Sat 05-Sep-09 20:45:05

The difference, princesstoadstool is that you do it 'now and then' and 'in short bursts'.

It sounds like reality's SIL does this 24/7/365.

And depression is not a license to be a bitch.

Doesn't mean I am never a bitch when I am depressed. I am. I totally am. But, like you, I stop at some point and say 'sorry, please hug me. Sorry I was such a bitch.'

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