I'm already fairly certain that IABU but just want to moan :-)(9 Posts)
my list of current irritations include:
a) good friend borrows my 'best' dressy jeans for a night out. I am pg so tell her to keep them for duration of pregnancy since I can't wear them. She wears them every single day while looking after her dcs etc despite knowing that they are 'going out' jeans!! (am embarrassed that I have going out jeans, but you know what I mean...)
b) MiL never offers anything in the way of practical help, DH travels for work a lot and she never offers to come and help out although I am heavily pg and have 2 young children, yet the minute Dh is back she is on the phone and asking to come over and trying to take over.
c) Sister only sent dd a b'day card, no present, despite having no money worries at all. Because 3 yo girls live for birthday cards, don't they.
d) despite having gained plenty of weight in this pg, all my padding has gone everywhere except my tummy. Consequently I feel like the baby is about to pop through my skin every time it moves. My arse, however, is the size of a county.
e) I really want sashimi
Probably more but surely that will do for now - plenty of proof there of the fact that I am a moany old cow.
You are not unreasonable. I too am heavily pregnant and everything is annoying the feck out of me. Re the jeans - ANNOYING! Re the mother-in-law - ANNOYING! Re the giant arse - ANNOYING (I too am vast and yet cannot stop eating)Re the sashimi - ANNOYING! I too had terrible cravings for raw fish and ate nothing but smoked salmon for 2 weeks until I found out I wasn't meant to. Since I have been taking a fish oil supplement, the cravings have gone.
tell your friend she might as well keep those jeans (as seem as they are now molded to the shape of her arse ) and she can buy you a nice new pair when your baby is born.
Thats beyond cheeky!
Hello - excellent idea to get all your irritations out in one go.
a) YAB a bit U, I think. But, maybe they'll be so unwearable by the time she gives them back that she'll buy you an even nicer peair
b) YANBU. Do you get on well enough to ask her over when DH is away? Maybe she feels a bit awkward when he's not there?
c) YANBU. She's a miserable cow. Obviously
d) YANBU. Sounds very uncomfortable, but I have no suggestions. Sorry
e) Is sashimi not allowed? I ate & drank everything I fancied whilst pregnant. I didn't know most of it was "banned" until later. I was in France when I found I was pregant and everything we're not supposed to eat is considered OK to eat there, so I figured, how bad could it really be? Also, I researched the science beind the banned foods, and basically there isn't any, except for not eating huge quantities of vitamin A (eg pate) every day.
you are not being even the tiniest bit unreasonable ;)
well, good then.
I will give full vent to my spleen and walk around with a miserable cow face on for the rest of the day.
Seabright - I think MiL does feel a bit awkward without dh around, yes. But even when he is around - she's useless. She's one of those grannies whose sole interest is making sure the children love and remember her, she has no interest in making life easier for us as a family in the knowledge that happy parents = happy kids. NEVER asks if she can pick anything up from the grocery store on her way over, NEVER brings a meal that I can stick in the freezer (she had a big op 2 years ago and I cooked loads of meals that she could stock the freezer with so as to give her a break while recovering, so it's not like I haven't led by example.....)
eg - dd's b'day party the other week, big affair and, as I say, I am heavily pregnant and catering for adults and kids. She arrived at the start time, left at the end time. Didn't help clear up, set up, make food, nothing. Bought a packet of cheese straws (improvement on last year, last year she bought an avocado and a melon which she placed on the table, uncut, along with all of the sandwiches etc LOL!!!) But spent the whole party chasing dd around and trying to get her to pose for photos with her with the present that she'd bought. She's what I would call a "glory chasing granny"
Worse I think as my mum lives o/s and can only come x1 a year (coming for a month in 5 weeks thank god!!)
Ha - the avocado and melon made me snort!! My MIL will, i know, be loved and cherished far more than me - all because she is "good fun" grrrrrrrr!
You have my sympathies...
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