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AIBU?

to spend tomorrow with dd and not dh and ds ...

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AlicesAdventuresInWonderland · 07/08/2009 17:04

dh forgot my birthday again and dd has really cheered me up today

so a girly shopping day

or a family friendly day

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shootfromthehip · 07/08/2009 17:07

Two schools of thought- give DH the chance to redeem himself and have a lovely family day, or prolong the agony and go out with DD. I'd have the family day out tbh.

Happy birthday though x

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TheProfiteroleThief · 07/08/2009 17:20

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MummyDragon · 07/08/2009 17:54

But why would you exclude DS? - did he forget your birthday too?

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elmofan · 07/08/2009 18:02

id have the family day out & make dh buy you something really nice & expensive
(teach him to remember next year)

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juuule · 07/08/2009 18:05

Family friendly day.

What did your ds do wrong that he is being excluded too?

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AlicesAdventuresInWonderland · 07/08/2009 19:52

no Im not being mean to ds..

there is just a very large age gap and dd and I can sit .....ds will do everything else but sit for a long time

I have had a lovely day with both of them today

but sometimes I just want to spend time with my dd

may be Im a tad unreasonable

sunday will be dh and ds

and dd will then be with her boyfriend all day

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MummyDragon · 07/08/2009 19:56

No, in that case YANBU!

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AlicesAdventuresInWonderland · 07/08/2009 21:02

thanks mummydragon

have had a lot happening recently and time with dd is rare two days in a row is amazing

probaly will barely speak to her to for a month after tomorrow

big age gaps bring a strange set of problems

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AlicesAdventuresInWonderland · 07/08/2009 21:05

sorry thanks to everyone else

and lol

dh did come in with a pressie

am keeping it for the morning ds loves unwrapping pressies

dh will never make time for my birthday work always come first

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juuule · 07/08/2009 21:16

How old are your dd and ds?

Were you expecting your dh to have a day off work for your birthday?

I don't think I'm following this very well at all

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AlicesAdventuresInWonderland · 07/08/2009 21:21

no not the day off

but he had the longist shift and is now on call and working on some paper at the moment

last year he forgot and had to drive miles to take a test on horse ..he is a vet

he just has the view that everything can be put put back a day or two

birthdays anniversarys christmas even

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AlicesAdventuresInWonderland · 07/08/2009 21:22

oh sorry dcs ages

ds is five

and dd is 18

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juuule · 07/08/2009 21:32

Oh that makes more sense now.

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AlicesAdventuresInWonderland · 08/08/2009 05:19

feck
Ive woken up feeling really guilty about going out with dd ....silly she is my daughter and dh and ds will have fun today

last week I was helping my Mum

feck

why can life not be easier

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4andnotout · 08/08/2009 06:51

I would go for the day out with dd and enjoy it and then enjoy your day with dh & ds tommorow.

Happy Birthday!

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macdoodle · 08/08/2009 07:24

Dont feel guilty - DD1 is 8 and DD2 is 19 months, and I crave time with DD1!
Next week I have booked a day off work, am leaving DD2 in CM, and me and DD1 are having a day

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georgimama · 08/08/2009 07:53

Adults birthdays can be put back a day or two.

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AlicesAdventuresInWonderland · 08/08/2009 18:36

maybe I can squeeze in one more birthday

dd and I have a wonderful day and walked and talked and walked and talked

was lovely

am shattered
she said we had clocked up ten km

thank to you for all the replies and

waves back to fourandnotout..

it can be hard to divide yourself but it can work

well sometimes